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Alexandra Heminsley book

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eyebrowshame · 07/06/2020 20:46

Has anyone seen the blurb to this? It looks like it might be...interesting


www.penguin.co.uk/authors/1069406/alexandra-heminsley

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eyebrowshame · 07/06/2020 20:48

Not sure if the link works - it's called Some Body To Love, about her husband who told her he was transitioning right after the birth of their baby.

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Dozer · 07/06/2020 20:52

I’ve read and enjoyed her previous books on running and swimming.

She has tweeted disappointment about JK Rowling’s tweets, suggesting that JK has been transphobic. Get the impression she’s v much in the “trans women are women” camp.

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eyebrowshame · 07/06/2020 20:52

Yes, I enjoyed her previous books very much.

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Fanthorpe · 07/06/2020 20:57

I’m tremendously sympathetic to her, she must love her partner very much. It would have destroyed me I think.
I wouldn’t be tweeting support for the erasure of my sex based rights that’s for sure.

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Binterested · 07/06/2020 21:05

Crikey. Her biog says something about proudly parenting her LGBTQ+ family.

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Binterested · 07/06/2020 21:05

It must be very confounding.

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Dozer · 07/06/2020 21:18

I will probably buy the book because like her previous writing.

Wouldn’t be inconsistent IMO to be both proud of one’s family and co-parenting / relationship with an LGBT ex, and to want to resist some of the “rights” sought by some activists that are likely to be detrimental to others.

I genuinely don’t understand why some people think/say it’s transphobic to want to retain single sex sports, facilities and services. To retain official stats to measure biological sex, and limit some experimental treatments for children and young people.

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Binterested · 07/06/2020 21:23

Easier not to engage brain I think. Just think rainbows and unicorns.

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Dozer · 08/06/2020 07:54

Hmm that seems dismissive.

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Binterested · 08/06/2020 08:12

Maybe. I can’t understand why else an educated woman would think anything JKR has said is transphobic. Even if you think TWAW, which is already a failure of critical thinking, JK hasn’t actually said anything in opposition to the rights and needs of trans people.

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Callmejudith · 08/06/2020 09:39

I feel desperately sorry for her. I think she is a trans widow and has been treated appallingly by her ex, but has chosen to go fully down the TWAW route. I'd love to know what she really feels.

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Dozer · 08/06/2020 10:13

Presumably her expressed views and book do set out what she thinks/feels! Why assume otherwise?

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pachyderm · 08/06/2020 11:30

I loved her books too and feel great sympathy for what her ex did, it must have been devastating as she had previously written about her romantic travails and long road to having a baby. I won't say any more about her ex as I'll get deleted. Her stance is perhaps understandable but disappointing.

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BaronessRadishFemish · 08/06/2020 12:15

I can't be arsed to work out if eyebrowshame is an anagram of alexandra heminsley

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Thelnebriati · 08/06/2020 14:25

I'm not sure if I need to hear another tale of relationship that has changed beyond all recognition, told from the POV of a woman who stays, or of all the sacrifices she makes on behalf of others.

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Divoc2020 · 08/06/2020 14:39

I believe they are separated now - she posted last year on Instagram about going to Pride with her ex.

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Divoc2020 · 08/06/2020 14:44

(Sorry - missed the posts below that already said he was the ex)

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eyebrowshame · 13/06/2020 15:42

She seems to have deleted all her social media - any idea why?

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Fanthorpe · 13/06/2020 16:36

I imagine all the dreadful stuff has got too much. She’s gone through an incredibly emotional time and I don’t blame her for switching it off. I feel upset when I see someone I like and admire tell me my views are bigoted, so I imagine if my partner was trans and I felt that TWAW I would feel afraid for them in the face of this perceived bigotry.

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FFSFFSFFS · 13/06/2020 17:19

I've seen her do a talk.

Lovely lovely woman who I think has put a lot of effort into dealing with maintaining a functioning family for her child and support her ex partner.

I can't remember exactly what she said - but she did refer to her mum saying something along the lines of she'd been radicalised about pronouns or something along those lines.

My impression was that she was trying to make the best of a very difficult situation - and supporting her partner's approach was the way that she was going to do this. But it was also very clear to me that there had been an enormous personal cost to her and who knows how things will pan out.

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Fanthorpe · 13/06/2020 17:50

I agree, I hope she has support. No doubt her partner had plenty.

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Helmetbymidnight · 14/06/2020 09:26

I imagine - and happy to be proved wrong - it will be a love and acceptance overcomes everything and be full of 'he is now more of a mummy than she could ever be' schtick.

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Helmetbymidnight · 14/06/2020 09:27

Ach, that sounds really mean-spirited. I hope she has been able to write HER own story whatever it is.

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EEP1989 · 07/08/2020 11:33

...probably that trans women are women. Because they are?

There is a lot of transphobia on this thread. JKR has consistently proved herself to be transphobic with the statements she has made. It is very disappointing.

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EEP1989 · 07/08/2020 11:37

my first sentence was a response to ‘callmejudith’ saying “I'd love to know what she really feels“

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