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A message of gratitude

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RaquelRosarioSanchez · 21/05/2020 13:22

Dear Mumsnet Women's Rights community,

Hope you are all staying safe and healthy during these challenging times.

My name is Raquel and I am a PhD student with the Centre for Gender and Violence Research at the University of Bristol. Some of you may be aware that things have been challenging for me, here in the UK. I wanted to post on this Women's Rights board to say thank you to all of you for everything that you have taught me over these past two years that I have been here in England.

Although it is online, Mumsnet has provided me with a sense of community and shown me the power of women coming together, in solidarity, to support each other. I have learned so much (and laughed so much) following the many passionate discussions which take place on this Women's Rights board. I often joke that if anyone ever wonders how to build a submarine, all they have to do is pop by Mumsnet and one of you will be like: "Right, here's how you start..."

Thank you to Mumsnet for allowing democratic and fruitful discussion of women's rights to take place. Most importantly, thank you to all of you for all you teach the many women who, like me, are oftentimes lurkers but are always learning.

Best wishes,
Raquel

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WTFSeriously · 21/05/2020 13:24

We all wish you success in your fight, and will support you however you need us to.

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Cuntysnark · 21/05/2020 13:25

I’ve heard you speak several times & thank you too. I chatted to you in a ‘ladies’ once (as you do) and cannot fathom how anyone could take umbrage at you. I think I’m right in saying we’re digging your hole, I certainly have!

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Lamahaha · 21/05/2020 13:26

Aw, thank you! This makes me want to cry!
I too have learnt so much from all the smart women here. Mumsnet really "rescued" me about 18 months ago when I first peaked, and I'm still learning. It is truly a community.
I've sent you a few flowers for your garden, as have many here -- good luck!

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 21/05/2020 13:27

Raquel Thanks thank you for your courage!

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severnboring · 21/05/2020 13:30

Hi Raquel!
That's really lovely - and thank you for standing up to bullies.
Ashamed of my city.
Hope you are OK, and the very best of luck!

And hope you are enjoying all the new flowers blossoming in your freshly dug garden... I'm sure there are lots of others willing to help with a bit more gardening...

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Prawnofthepatriarchy · 21/05/2020 13:30

I too have added a few flowers to your garden, RaquelRosarioSanchez. Thank you for your gracious post. So many of us have benefited from the feminist community here. Sisterhood is powerful.

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forsucksfake · 21/05/2020 13:37

Best wishes to you, Raquel. Thanks

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CatandtheFiddle · 21/05/2020 13:39

Thank you Rosa.

I hope I've dug your garden a bit/enough, Rosa. I remember seeing you chair that very early meeting of Fair Play for Women in late 2017 (when I was dealing with a disciplinary for supposedly being "transphobic" at my institution). I still remember your calm, respectful and assertive chairing of that meeting.

Congratulations for your determination & steadfastness Flowers Writing a PhdD is bloody hard work enough, without all the rubbish you're having to put up with.

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OhHolyJesus · 21/05/2020 13:55

Off to plant some flowers soon Rosa you're a warrior and it's us who are grateful for you for taking a stand. It can't have been easy at all. Courage calls to courage. There will be others who agree with you even if they can't say so.

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334bu · 21/05/2020 14:44

🌷 ♥

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FloralBunting · 21/05/2020 14:53

Loving your work.

A message of gratitude
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Whatsnewpussyhat · 21/05/2020 15:06

You are amazing.
Keep fighting. We are here with you.

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ScrimpshawTheSecond · 21/05/2020 15:19

Flowers best wishes and thank you to you, Rosa.

And to all the kind and courageous women on here. You're amazing, all of you.

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FleecyMoo · 21/05/2020 15:29

Thank you for your lovely post and I completely agree with you about the community to be found here with so many intelligent, thoughtful and brave women Flowers

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MilleniumHallsWalledGarden · 21/05/2020 15:48

Thanks for you, and best wishes

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ScapaFlo · 21/05/2020 15:52

Best wishes Raquel. I'm sorry you had to go through what you've been put through.

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Mollyollydolly · 21/05/2020 16:07

I don't normally post - just lurk but having read your story yesterday just wanted to wish you all the luck in the world. I feel ashamed of the way you have been treated.

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Quillink · 21/05/2020 16:46

All the very best to you Raquel. I'm so sorry that you have had to put up with this. Thank you for fighting Flowers

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RumbaswithPumbaas · 21/05/2020 19:01

Hi Raquel, I am Bristol Allumni, would it help if I cancel direct debit and explain why?

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GinnyLane · 21/05/2020 19:21

Raquel

We stand with you.

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Lamahaha · 21/05/2020 19:37

An interesting comment by one of the gardeners:


After hearing of your story, several of my senior school pupils contacted me to ask if I think Bristol is a safe Uni for females to attend. I remained neutral, but encouraged them to set up their own discussion group (including their male and female peers). Their overwhelming conclusion was "No".

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truthisarevolutionaryact · 21/05/2020 19:40

Thank you Raquel for your courage and I am so sorry at what you have been put through. Well done for speaking out - I am another one who has contributed.

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Pertella · 21/05/2020 20:45

Thank you Raquel, I have scattered a few seeds and will happily scatter more in June.

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Binterested · 21/05/2020 20:50

Dug for you Raquel Flowers

Good to know there are some women holding Instituitons to account over this shamefulness.

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ByGrabtharsHammerWhatASavings · 21/05/2020 20:58

I studied at Bristol myself a decade ago and have only fond memories of it. I'm so ashamed of how far it's fallen and the kind of behaviour that's been allowed to thrive there. So sorry for everything you've been through and I'll definitely be bringing my spade to help you get some justice from them!

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