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Help me articulate why this is sexist

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Namechange47308281 · 13/04/2020 20:00

If you described yourself as ‘crying like a girl’.
Yes women are more inclined and encouraged to show their emotions. But it’s still sexist is it not?
There are massive negative connotations to the phrase surely?

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WrathofFaeKIopp · 13/04/2020 20:05

If you described yourself as ‘crying like a girl’
I have never described myself as 'crying like a girl’.

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Namechange47308281 · 13/04/2020 20:07

Apologies that’s badly phrased.

If someone described them self as . . .

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TehBewilderness · 13/04/2020 20:13

Doing anything like a girl has been the default insult among men for many many years.
Yes it is sexist. It isn't possible to cry like a girl unless you are a girl who is crying.

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WrathofFaeKIopp · 13/04/2020 20:18

'Like a girl' is a phrase that is putting someone down based on sexist views.
'Crying like a girl' reinforces sexist stereotypes.
Not a massive issue but annoying to think there are people who still believe in 1950's gender stereotypes.

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DCIRozHuntley · 13/04/2020 20:20

Hmm. Girl tells us 3 things - species is human, sex is female, age is under 18. I suppose a woman can describe themselves as "crying like a girl" because they are female and know how they used to cry as a child.

If it wasn't sexist and just related to the age of the person, though, men would cry like boys.

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Pertella · 13/04/2020 20:23

A girl/woman wouldn't be described as crying like a girl, it is only something said to boys/men in an attempt to shame them for showing emotion.

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SliAnChroi · 13/04/2020 20:28

I think it susggests a load of sexist assumptions, like girls cry over nothing, that their tears are fake..

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Namechange47308281 · 13/04/2020 20:32

From a senior police officer.

Help me articulate why this is sexist
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LadyBBKing · 13/04/2020 20:46

A senior Male police officer is "crying like a girl". Distasteful

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DrDreReturns · 13/04/2020 20:49

Shakespeare did it in King Lear, "women's weapons, water-drops"

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Qcng · 13/04/2020 20:53

Explaining sexism to a police officer would be like trying to explain the history of domestication to your pet cat. A waste of effort and then they wouldn't care anyway.

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ladybee28 · 13/04/2020 20:58

Explaining sexism to a police officer would be like trying to explain the history of domestication to your pet cat. A waste of effort and then they wouldn't care anyway

Speaking of prejudice...

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DidoLamenting · 13/04/2020 21:12

There is nothing wrong with a grown woman saying "I cried like a baby" or "I cried like when I was a little girl" if the intention is to convey the sort of uncontrollable reaction a small , female child might have had.

Had he said "I cried like a baby" or "I cried like when I was a little boy" - both perfectly fine.

In his current circumstances however whilst it was an unthinking remark I think on the whole I would have let this one go. His remark was casual sexism but making a thread to criticise him given his and his family's circumstances also seems a bit distasteful.

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saturdaynightathome · 13/04/2020 21:24

It is sexist because it's being portrayed as a weakness.

Women do not describe themselves as crying like a girl. It's an expression only used in judgment, by men and about men.

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TreestumpsAndTrampolines · 13/04/2020 22:33

Had he said "I cried like a baby" or "I cried like when I was a little boy" - both perfectly fine.

exactly this.

Boys cry just the same as girls, unless they've been indoctrinated into toxic masculinity and taught that the only emotion they are allowed to show is anger.

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june2007 · 13/04/2020 22:37

TBH I don,t really here crying like a girl m,uch. But yes of course its sexist.

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PositiveVibez · 13/04/2020 23:00

Of course it's sexist. It's used to denote a weakness. Used by males.

You never hear a woman using this phrase.

It's only ever used by adult males.

It's the same a man telling another man he is a 'fanny' or a 'pussy' for acting weak.

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deydododatdodontdeydo · 13/04/2020 23:07

Throw like a girl is a common phrase, too.
In contrast to the poster above, I have heard other mums telling their sons to "stop crying like a girl".

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2ndStar · 13/04/2020 23:23

It’s used to criticise behaviour in men/boys, of course it’s sexist. As is like a woman, gossips like a woman for example.

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ErrolTheDragon · 13/04/2020 23:36

Yes, it's sexist.
But although its denigrating to women as being weak, it's really more deleterious to men - under some circumstances (eg in this particular case) its entirely normal and healthy for anyone to cry. 'Big boys don't cry' ... not good.

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Changename5000 · 14/04/2020 07:52


Called run like a girl
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DickKerrLadies · 14/04/2020 08:02

I honestly can't think of any time I've heard an insult that ended in the words 'like a boy' yet it's an awful thing for a boy to be told he's crying like a girl, or running like a girl, or throwing like a girl. I've heard those lots.

Why is it so bad for a boy to be 'like a girl' but fine for a girl to be 'like a boy'?

Is the worst thing a male can be, to be like a female? That's a hypothetical question, as we all know what the worst thing you can call someone is and what that means.

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JellySlice · 14/04/2020 10:04

It's sexist because he is a man using the term "cried like a girl" to show that he was behaved weakly, in an umanly way. Men must be strong! Men must not show emotions! Especially not emotions displaying any weakness!

Had he said he 'cried like a child', it would not have been insulting because children do display their emotions, are allowed to display distress in distressing circumstances.

For a male to describe something negative of himself as being something female is a statement that female is negative. Sexist.

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june2007 · 14/04/2020 12:54

Man up is also just as bad.

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NC4Now · 14/04/2020 12:58

There were plenty of good comments on that thread. I particularly liked, “I think you’ll find you were crying like a man.”

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