I've tried to write this out a few times and I can't express it very well, so please be gentle.
The HW and general sexual harassment threads have got me thinking. A lot of men feel entitled to sex and it seems their sexual gratification overrides everything else.
HW is in this category. He didn't care that the women didn't want to be there. I think you could say men who use prostitutes and porn are too, because their desire to get off outweighs their concern for the women or porn actresses/actors involved (often coerced/in poverty/addicted to drugs).
Paedophiles put their gratification above the needs of the children who are abused.
Maybe also the men who sulk/get angry when their wives/girlfriends don't want sex, because they are putting their own needs before their partners, or at least not really thinking of them as a person with their own desires/emotions.
But then it is said that rape is not about sex, but power. So does that mean it's not necessarily about sexual gratification but just a way to exert your power? For HW, was having the power to threaten and coerce women into doing what he wanted what got him off? Or was it just another way to show his power? With waiters/film runners he would bully and berate them to show his power, but with actresses it would involve sex?
I'm not that well-read on feminism, is there anyone in particular who covers this area well? I'm just trying to see where it intersects, if it does - can anyone offer their opinions?
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Male sexual gratification overriding everything else - or misuse of power? Or both?
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BadenBadenBadenBaden · 17/10/2017 17:21
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