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If you think this is everyday sexism...

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lupa123 Fri 19-May-17 16:10:55

www.facebook.com/PTAUKParentteacherassociationsuk/?hc_ref=NEWSFEED&fref=nf
(it's the bouncy castle post)

... and should be challenged, perhaps you might like to let PTA UK know?

I'm particularly pissed off because they're trying to justify it as being 'light-hearted' and therefore apparently OK.

lupa123 Fri 19-May-17 16:12:57

Here's the objectionable post.

NellieFiveBellies Fri 19-May-17 16:16:38

i dont get it.
is it saying dads should get bouncy castles because mums get dinosaurs? or dads should do it because dads get dinosaurs?

lupa123 Fri 19-May-17 16:25:47

To me it says 'only a man would do anything as fun as hiring a dragon/dinosaur bouncy castle'.

HuckfromScandal Fri 19-May-17 16:27:37

Oh get a grip
If this is all you have to worry about - count your bloody blessings

StealthPolarBear Fri 19-May-17 16:28:18

Yes I think it's saying the mums' bouncy castle wpuld be dull.
It's pretty much the same as girls like pink, boys like trucks stuff.

MorrisZapp Fri 19-May-17 16:28:42

I'm a massive hairy feminist and I can't see the harm in that. Sorry.

StealthPolarBear Fri 19-May-17 16:29:01

Huck some of us have the ability to worry about more than one thing at a time

BaronessEllaSaturday Fri 19-May-17 16:31:15

I think things like this are important due to the very nature of them being casual and jokey. It's about ingrained attitudes.

BertrandRussell Fri 19-May-17 16:32:26

5 posts to "if that's all you've got to worry about....". A record, I think!

OP, yes, it is everyday sexism- the constant drip drip drip of things too small to complain about that become a massive brimming bucket of crap before you know it.

badabing36 Fri 19-May-17 16:33:37

Dp (man) would not think this was safe enough. I guess it's sexist, but I'm a bit meh about it. It's a stereotype, but you do read about of a lot of impractical 'fun' dads on mn so maybe it's more true than us 'fun' mums would like to believe.

neonrainbow Fri 19-May-17 16:34:42

Its the thinnest end of the smallest wedge i think I've ever seen. There's plenty of other far worse adverts to get up in arms about.

lupa123 Fri 19-May-17 16:43:39

I agree it's trivial in the grand scheme of things, and if I saw it elsewhere or someone said something similar I'd let it slide.

BUT, for an organisation whose members are, let's face it, primarily mothers, to be spreading this shit that sends the message 'you'd be doing a much better job if you were a man' is just wrong.

I thought they'd remove it once the sexism was pointed out, but apparently since it's promoting men (at the expense of women), that makes it alright.

BertrandRussell Fri 19-May-17 16:43:44

Is anyone getting "up in arms" about it? All I saw was a bit of chat. Well, on the "yep, it's a bit sexist" side anyway. Can't really speak for the "get a grip" side. They do seem to get cross very quickly......

NoLoveofMine Fri 19-May-17 16:51:39

If this is all you have to worry about - count your bloody blessings

Laughable comment. How does someone posting about something mean that's "all they have to worry about"?

AssassinatedBeauty Fri 19-May-17 16:52:03

It is trivial but it irks me. The supposed aim of raising awareness of the value of men in school communities isn't served by throwing around lazy stereotypes like this.

NoLoveofMine Fri 19-May-17 16:53:46

I'm a massive hairy feminist and I can't see the harm in that. Sorry.

It's pretty clearly harmful especially coming from an organisation which represents parents and teachers. It's suggesting only dads (and therefore men) would book something they're portraying as fun and exciting, whilst mums (women) would pick a boring, run of the mill option. Men are daring, women are dull. Great message to send to parents and for them to feed into their children.

NoLoveofMine Fri 19-May-17 16:55:54

Its the thinnest end of the smallest wedge i think I've ever seen. There's plenty of other far worse adverts to get up in arms about.

No-one is getting "up in arms" about it. Pointing out everyday sexism doesn't equate to declaring war on the PTA.

Please let me know how sexist something has to be before we're allowed to mention them?

PoochSmooch Fri 19-May-17 17:05:53

I would like to see this scale of sexism with the cut off point for where things get sexist enough to worry about! That would save me heaps of wasted brainpower.

I expect it probably uses Saudi Arabia as the scale, and the measurements are in burkas grin

Anyway, yep, I agree, it's a shit ad with a lazy sexist stereotype. Mum, you're SO dull.

NoLoveofMine Fri 19-May-17 17:11:30

I expect it probably uses Saudi Arabia as the scale, and the measurements are in burkas

grin

It probably is along those lines; I think once women have the vote nothing could possibly be sexist enough to warrant comment, seeing as "don't you have better things to worry about" is churned out to silence comment on pretty much anything.

Anyway, yep, I agree, it's a shit ad with a lazy sexist stereotype. Mum, you're SO dull.

Indeed. Shows what they know, as well. I have it on very good authority from a friend of my brother's that my mum is "awesome".

StealthPolarBear Fri 19-May-17 17:19:39

Yes on the scale of sexism this is half a burkha. What is the threshold o wise ones?

PoochSmooch Fri 19-May-17 17:25:25

I can summon up some righteous rage for an eighth of a burka offence, if the wind's in the right direction. Like, say, a man talking over me in a meeting? That's an eighth of a burka. Goes up to a quarter of a burka if someone attributes one of my ideas to him.

Full burka offences: rape, honour killing, FGM, actual enforced burka wearing.

There! Solved it.

StealthPolarBear Fri 19-May-17 17:26:26

Oh for me an eighth is simply a raised eyebrow and a sharp intake of breath

RufusTheRenegadeReindeer Fri 19-May-17 18:56:44

I would be a bit cheesed off

That bouncy castle is awesome

That's exactly the type of thing i would order...

For my living room

LassWiTheDelicateAir Fri 19-May-17 19:54:30

I would be cheesed off. I understand the continuum view that little things like this are part of the whole and that if you tackle the little things it all helps.

The other view is concentrate on the big stuff, the Ched Evans, the "she was asking for it" the " prostitution is just another job" nonsense" because going on about this sort of stuff makes you sound like , as someone on the ballet said, a loon. And sounding like a loon never helps.

There is another thread at the moment about a stupid , naff sign on a pub toilet. The stupid, naff sign merited a mention; it should not, as a poster on that thread suggested it did, lead anyone to think it damaged their sense of self worth or question their value in society.

IMHO that sort of OTT reaction to a stupid pub sign is pretty near the end of the loon scale. This complaint is not. It is an ignorant and poor show from a body which should know better.

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