With something really frivolous or that feels as such.
I am, after 6 years, winding down bfing. I haven't been bfing the same DC for 6 years btw, it's DC3 who is finishing. I've not bothered buying any new clothes since DD1 was born as I felt it was pointless. I have been given a few things over the years but I have worn many of them out and, after 3 pregnancies and bfing, my body shape is different.
So I need a couple new things which sounds simple enough except that I hate hate hate clothes shopping. I'm v broad hipped and large breasted and everything I try makes me feel crap. DH says 'Blame the clothes, not your body' and he's absolutely right (fwiw, he thinks I am lovely in all the shapes I've been), but it's very hard.
I also have conflicting feelings because I keep thinking that clothes shopping is a frivolous pursuit and also that as a sahm, I don't need any new or nice things as who sees me anyway and it doesn't matter what I wear. And then I feel guilty because thinking that shopping for clothes is frivolous is sexist and, in writing this, I have just realised that actually, in my head, it's not frivolous for anyone else, just me.
I don't know what I am getting at, I guess I was hoping you lot could help me figure out this feeling and maybe the shopping trip I will need to go on will seem less awful. Last time I desperately needed new clothes, I put it off and put it off until DH said that if I went in the shop and found one thing, we could then spend as long as we wanted in a bookshop. Then I went in, got six black tops all the same because they were the only clothes that didn't make me feel crap. In short, last time I tried to shop, my husband had to bribe me to spend money on myself. But I want to do it by myself this time. So any advice or overthinking welcome.
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ISaySteadyOn · 24/03/2017 12:06
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