DD is 5. She firmly believes that boys and girls are entitled to be treated equally, gets furious whenever she hears any suggestion of the opposite, and can hold forth about 'nasty Mr Trump.' She's awesome 😄
But I find our conversations about feminism, equality, activism etc are becoming more and more stilted. They're happening fairly regularly, due to the world we live in I suppose, and to the news coverage of the recent marches and protests. She wants to know more and more and I'm proud of her for asking questions and being interested, but how do you tell a 5 year old what the patriarchy truly is and has been without scaring the shit out of them? I have always taken an 'I'll answer any question truthfully' approach with this and everything else, but I'm getting to the point where I don't want to tell her the truth. It is easier with stuff like babies, where we got as far as 'the man uses his penis to put sperm inside the woman, and that meets an egg and forms a baby,' she laughed at the idea of an egg (😆) and then got bored and we talked about something else. The questions about equal rights are so much more geared to her sense of self though-she likes babies but has no interest in having one, obviously! Whereas she is absolutely interested in being given the same opportunities as boys, and in her right to be safe while she has them. How do you explain that for centuries it has been the norm for women to be treated differently, badly, violently? I have the same issue with age-appropriate discussions about racism. I want her to know about it and she wants to know about it. It makes her sad and angry. But I don't really want her to be exposed, at this age, to the horror of it. (And then I feel, well, if she weren't white, I wouldn't have that choice.)
Can anyone recommend any good books or films that might address some of her questions in an age appropriate way? Or books or films for ME that would help me continue to talk to her about these things without scaring her silly?
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How do you talk about feminism with your young daughters?
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Oscha · 18/02/2017 14:13
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