I've always had quite in depth discussions with my DCs about issues that affect us all. I consider my oldest DS to be a feminist, he is not on board with the objectification and sexism we see all around us, he has a lovely GF, of whom he is very respectful etc.
However, lately he seems to have adopted a NAMALT stance whenever we talk about things that affect women adversely and I don't know how to talk to him with appearing to attack his entire gender.
As an example we were talking about trans people in women only spaces such as refuges.
His take was that there should be no such place as a women only space, that women shouldn't tar all men with the same brush, that we would never be allowed a 'whites only' refuge because someone happened to have been assaulted by a black person or vice versa, so why are we allowed to keep all men out of a safe space for women because the person who attacked them happened to be a man.
He complained that there are no 'men only' refuges for male victims of DV ( I said that if men had seen a need for such refuges they could have built them, but that statistically women are far more likely to need protection from violent men than vice versa).
How do I talk to him about this without seeming like I hate and distrust all men? He knows that I was strangled and hit by a previous partner (not his dad, who was very gentle and non-threatening, but emotionally distant, much like him!)
I know these statistics don't prove that ALL men are a danger, but how can I kindly point out that there is a discrepancy because there needs to be one?
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16 y/o DS and NAMALT!
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FeedMeAndTellMeImPretty · 02/09/2016 12:19
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