I believe some attachment parents are being disingenous when they say their approach was easier for them (compared to other ways one can be a loving mother).
AP approaches are associated with severe and long term sleep deprivation. So, AP may have other benefits, but is being easier generally one of them?
I acknowledge that AP may well be experienced as easier by some individuals.
My contention is that out of the chorus of voices saying "I'm so lazy" there must be a fair few who have hurt their backs from wearing a sling or got depressed from being housebound and are just not acknowledging this part of their experience.
Why is this a problem? It's a problem because I think new mothers are being told only part of the story about AP. Having had no experience of parenting at all, they hear many (but no doubt not all) AP advocates suggesting that this is an easy way to be a mother, when in fact it is a very intense way to mother.
Mothers with mental health concerns, for example, may not find it easier to scale back their work in favour of spending long hours mothering without the balance that work outside the home can provide.
And yes I know AP is an 'approach' or a 'toolkit' but everyone knows certain ways of doing things are considered preferable.
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wenchystrumpet · 22/08/2016 22:40
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