I didn't know where else to post this so I've gone for the feminism thread. I feel that this comment that my boss said is sexist in that he wouldn't have said it to a man.
I was reviewing a report with him this afternoon and I corrected a couple of mistakes he'd made and he snapped at me: "you're so annoying; no wonder you're still single." I was taken aback and upset and didn't know what to say other than 'you shouldn't say things like that'. He wouldn't say that to any men in the office and he wouldn't say it to most women.
I am very private in work. I have a senior position and I always wear a suit and shirt. Hardly any other women wear a suit but I prefer to as it helps me with my professional image when I'm there. I got another job offer recently and I really wanted it but it meant moving further away and family reasons kept me in the area. My boss was begging me not to leave and offered me a promotion to stay on. I know he thinks highly of me yet, at the same time, feels he can make comments like that.
I'm really annoyed with him for saying it as I deliberately don't share many details of my private life in work. When I have had relationships, I've kept them quiet. I had an abusive relationship years ago, before I started there, which my boss knows about but that's all.
I know there's nothing I can do and I needed to vent, I guess. It annoyed me because it implies that I'm single because there's something wrong with me; that I'm defective in some way. On another thread recently, discussing Mrs/Ms/Miss, women (who were defending their right to use Mrs) were claiming that single women don't get discriminated against. Yet today I have one example of my boss saying something very inappropriate because I'm single. He woudn't have said it to anyone else.
He has said insensitive things in the past and has always apologised but he didn't this time and now he's on holiday for a week.
Thank you for reading if you got this far! I needed to get this off my chest.
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Annoyed at boss's comment today
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ElanoraHeights · 29/04/2016 23:23
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