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If you had the choice would you rather have been born male?

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khuliloach Wed 09-Mar-16 20:02:15

I have been thinking about this a lot lately and its getting depressing. I am 41 and just know I would have had a much better life being a male.

I hate who I am. I have two lovely children, loved being preg and all that. But just see all the males around me have such an easier time. Including husband, who's life hasn't changed at all since having children.

He is so free and has no ties.

I would just love to be a man!

derxa Wed 09-Mar-16 20:05:32

I hate who I am. This is the problem not being male or female

Icompletelyunderstand Wed 09-Mar-16 20:06:34

Not at all.

I don't think men necessarily have it easier. They just have it different.

Owllady Wed 09-Mar-16 20:07:43

You don't want to be a man, you want an equal existence to your husband!

stubbornstains Wed 09-Mar-16 20:09:20

Not at all.

(warning: massive generalisation alert! NAMALT etc etc)

I see so many men giving women a hard time, but so many of them aren't happy and fulfilled in themselves. It seems to be common for men to have absolutely no awareness of their own emotions, or what they need to make themselves happy. They so often sow misery all around them, while being totally fucked up themselves.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid Wed 09-Mar-16 20:12:28

Not even remotely.

But both I and dh were raised in families where both parents worked and both parents did housework. So maybe my life is a little more equal than most womens.

SpeakNoWords Wed 09-Mar-16 20:14:13

When I was a teenager and a very young adult, I did think this to some extent. Then I reconciled with being a woman, and wouldn't at all want to be a man.

The inequalities that I see wrt women makes me angry and want to take action but it doesn't make me want to be a man.

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SurferJet Wed 09-Mar-16 20:15:54

Yes, I would have rather been born male.

Branleuse Wed 09-Mar-16 20:16:47

I dont think I could make that choice. Im ok with being a woman, but in all honesty I think id have been OK as a man too. I would have probably just got on with it

zzzzz Wed 09-Mar-16 20:16:51

Good Lord No!

TitsForBrains Wed 09-Mar-16 20:17:00

I have asked myself this question many times over the years and the answer has always been that I would not want to be a man.

LuluJakey1 Wed 09-Mar-16 20:18:28

Never. I would never wish I had been born a man. I can see no advantages at all that interest me.

LilacSpunkMonkey Wed 09-Mar-16 20:19:14

Good God, no.

AnyFucker Wed 09-Mar-16 20:20:17


I am happy as I am.

Seeyounearertime Wed 09-Mar-16 20:20:42

God no, and i am one.
but thats another kettle with different fish in it. grin

AnyFucker Wed 09-Mar-16 20:20:47

I have worked bloody hard on myself to get to that point though

Conflictedkate Wed 09-Mar-16 20:21:26

Absolutely not. Having experienced pregnancy and childbirth I wouldn't wish to be a man in a million years. I do have a very equitable relationship though where there's no wife work

pollyblack Wed 09-Mar-16 20:22:28

No, never, I love being female.

I love the way women think about things, and our consideration of others, I don't care if it uses up time, it makes the world a much better place. I enjoy being a (generally) better communicator too, so many men I know have deep issues cause they don't know how to express themselves.

That said if I was a man I would rule the world, with all that spare time imagine what I could achieve!

AnyFucker Wed 09-Mar-16 20:25:33

being a bloke looks proper shit to me

nulgirl Wed 09-Mar-16 20:25:54

Nope. I'm very happy being female. I suppose I'm lucky that I have never had to live through what women in other parts of the world have to. I've got a supportive family, great job and a husband who to be honest does 95% of the housework. Don't think I would have all that if I had been born in many other countries.

LassWiTheDelicateAir Wed 09-Mar-16 20:28:02

No absolutely not. Not remotely.

I don't think men always have it easier. I think there was far more pressure on my husband for example to be assumed as a partner- we both are,but I don't think there was a pressure on me.

Men my age who aren't partners will often be assumed to not be suitable or lacking ambition and will be viewed more negatively than women who are not partners.

Including husband, whose life hasn't changed at all since having children

He is so free and has no ties

Um, I think it has. If you think it hasn't and that he has no ties that's really for him and you to address.

exLtEveDallas Wed 09-Mar-16 20:33:26

No. I've worked in 2 male dominated industries since school (building trade then Army) and if anything it has helped make me the strong person I am. I don't allow anyone to make me feel inferior because of my sex, so I don't feel that being a man would improve my life at all.

ChipsandGuac Wed 09-Mar-16 20:34:53

Nope! I like me just the way I am.

DansonslaCapucine Wed 09-Mar-16 20:38:32

My dh's life has changed more than mine has since having dc's. He certainly isn't free.

To answer your question - no, I would bit prefer to be male. I reckon it's just a 'better the devil you know' type thing though.

Not many men would prefer to have been female.

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