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WhataRacquet Fri 05-Feb-16 11:36:57

I was looking up money saving tips on Pinterest and came across this the50shousewife.com/2014/06/how-to-survive-on-one-paycheck-1950s-style/

I can't believe any woman would think like this!

StealthPolarBear Fri 05-Feb-16 11:41:22

I hope that's a spoof.
Anyway there's no risk in handing over all financial responsibility to your husband is there? In the 50s life was rosy and all women were cherished and cared for and had no bugger thoughts in their little brains than ironing, singing and looking pretty for when the great provider got home.
I'm not reading all the way though that. It's pure goadery.

Eggsandketchup Fri 05-Feb-16 11:41:30

Ewwa

WileHallion Fri 05-Feb-16 11:42:40

Eurgh.

I don't know if you were around then but a few years ago we had a thread by a real life 'Surrendered Wife' (vomits). It was hideous.

HelpfulChap Fri 05-Feb-16 11:47:16

This could be an interesting thread. Place marking.

MiddleClassProblem Fri 05-Feb-16 11:55:51

She's sounds like a Dick but if that's what she wants to do then that's fine for her. I just don't like any articles that say you have to do it this way because he will do xyz or the other way around. People are people. They are all different. I know my DH would never think I was miss spending money and fucking up the budget but then he's not some cut out version of a man which everyone must be like. It's bloody patronising to be told you should be an exact fit.

MiddleClassProblem Fri 05-Feb-16 11:56:26

Dick with a capital D according to my auto correct grin

Lweji Fri 05-Feb-16 12:00:25

"Resist the urge to show him how to do it. Resist the urge to remind him what to do. And do not check up on him. He is capable. Let him step up to the challenge. He may shock you with his abilities. And yes, he may occasionally mess up, but so what. Haven’t you occasionally messed up? Let him be. Remember when we talked about accepting him completely, just as he is?"

I think it's a wind up.

RudeElf Fri 05-Feb-16 12:06:49

that makes for cringey reading.

StarCat Fri 05-Feb-16 12:10:55

I have 100% control of our finances. I don't see anything wrong with this if both parties agree.

TheGreatSnafu Fri 05-Feb-16 12:14:15

It must be a wind up?

HelpfulChap Fri 05-Feb-16 12:17:05

We are a single income family. After bills are deducted the balance is split 70:30 in favour of DW. Seems to work OK for us.

StarCat Fri 05-Feb-16 12:20:56

I also don't dent dh money, but yes I would end up very angry if he was allowed to budget our money. I expect this women is like my dh but she can't extrapolate that to all women/men. Play to your strengths.

Dh comes to me when he wants stuff and he gets spending money. He can also ask extras if he lets me know.

Want2bSupermum Fri 05-Feb-16 12:21:31

You get people like that here in MN all the time. Drives me nuts. I work, do housework and parent. I expect my DH to do the same. We are a team and need to play to each other's strengths. He knows NOTHING about finance and I know ZILCH about making bacon.

What's the bet that this woman is divorced before she hits 50 and on a site like MN all confused about her finances, or lack of them?

TeaT1me Fri 05-Feb-16 12:28:30

I don't think it's a spoof. I dint agree with her reasoning at all but I think when you have a sahm (which I might be for a few years) then things are differently balanced.

StarCat Fri 05-Feb-16 12:31:29

Dh has been an SAHD and we have done it other way round. We have also mainly both worked. Either way dh comes to me for his allowance.

QuietWhenReading Fri 05-Feb-16 12:36:46

What a lot of nonsense.

grimbletart Fri 05-Feb-16 12:39:04

I was young in the 50s and let me assure everyone that my mum - a 50s housewife because of ill-health (she had been a 20s and 30s career woman) would not have put up with that crap for one moment.

She and my dad were a very equal partnership even though it was single income. Their money was shared, both budgeted.

To bear to read that I had to see it as a parody.

There was a lovely Freudian slip in it though i.e. "reigns" instead of "reins". She obviously really does see the dragon-slaying husband as an emperor!

stumblymonkey Fri 05-Feb-16 12:43:50

Okay...I just got to this part:

"One of the things I was most shocked to learn about is the secret life of men. Secret to women, that is. It's a brutal, stressful world that they live in - far worse than anything a woman can imagine, simply because our brains don't work the same as theirs"
^^
Ha ha ha ha ha. I work in the City...my woman's brain has apparently no problem coping, and dare I say more than coping, with this world.

<Returns to read more of article while ranting out loud confusing DCats a lot who are wondering what they've done wrong>

stumblymonkey Fri 05-Feb-16 12:47:33

I wonder how the author of the article would prepare to move to her way of living in a house where the woman earns £100k and the man earns £15k.

So many assumptions made here. Pass me the sick bucket.

sleepyhead Fri 05-Feb-16 12:48:42

I remember my grandmother speaking about a friend's husband who had just died. "He was a good man like your grandad. He never brought home a broken paypacket."

That was the way it was in their community. Men went out to work and if they were good men they brought all their pay home to their wives who did all the finances. They would get some money for their own spends, but it was the women who were in control because they knew what money the household needed to live on.

Not saying this was a golden age - there were plenty men who took their pay straight to the pub and left their children hungry and there was bugger all their wives could do about it - but I don't know where she's getting this 50s housewife thing from, there were many sorts of 50s housewife (and many, like my grandmother, also worked).

StealthPolarBear Fri 05-Feb-16 12:51:41

Yes grimbe you're right and I apologise. My grandparents would have been of the age to have young children in the 50s. I'm not saying they had balanced relationships but it most certainly was not like this.

StarCat Fri 05-Feb-16 12:52:41

That's how we are sleepyhead, and my parents, and their parents. I really couldn't imagine allowing a man to control a household's money, but I am aware that is my socialisation. Something about a man doing it makes me feel really uncomfortable. I expect the pintrest lady is socialised the other way round.

WhataRacquet Fri 05-Feb-16 13:02:49

"Back before the introduction of feminism, this is how it worked, and men woke every day with just a few things on their minds. After they got that first one out of the way, <wink>"

I think this annoyed me more than anything. She seems to think that equality is putting such a burden on the poor men!

katienana Fri 05-Feb-16 13:16:24

I tried to read the post but I got too distracted thinking about fluffy kittens with pink collars. Can someone explain it to me in simple language?

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