Hope this is the right place to ask/discuss this, as it seems to me a quite largely feminist issue but will happily admit that, although I'm a feminist, I'm not that well educated on many issues, yet. Please don't flame me, I'm trying to understand.
Basically, I was having a discussion with a relative the other night which involved discussing how women who 'appear like men' are perceived and the different way men who 'appear like women' (the stereotypical issues of dress, behaviour etc) are seen. Since then I've been wondering about the way transgender issues fit into this and can't get my head around why, from a feminist point of view, there should be such a thing as transgender at all.
In saying that I'm making a huge distinction between gender, which I see as a purely social concept and very fluid, all down to how you're perceived and the behaviours you choose, and sex, which is varying physiological/biological sets of 'solid' characteristics (solid in that you can't make different choices hour by hour but you can change if you choose to).
I can totally understand why you would want to change sex, especially if you feel you were literally born in the wrong body, but feel somehow it's anti-feminist to be supported in changing gender and then being socially expected to change sex to support that, or forever be known as 'transgender', as that's saying that certain behaviours/preferences/body types etc belong in a specific gender and can't be entertained in another gender. To VERY crudely sum it up in more stereotypes, if you're born with a penis and named Gary and you're happy with that but want to wear minidresses and stockings all day and become a beauty therapist why can't you do that and still be seen as a 'normal man'? Or be a man that would prefer his name to be Daisy? Or change sex but keep your birth name of Gary? Why is it seen as wrong, and anti transgender, to reject the idea that it's natural for sex and gender to align?
Am I looking at it all wrong? If sex and gender aren't separated how do we ever get past ideas such as 'men/women MUST be like this because of their hormones' (hugely simplifying but hope that makes sense)?
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Really hoping I won't get flamed, genuine q re transgender
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PityPartay · 16/07/2015 15:23
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