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Kids thrown in juvenile detention for refusing to see possibly violent father

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BerylStreep · 15/07/2015 16:51

Wow! Poor kids. Not sure it is a feminism issue though.

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BettyCatKitten · 15/07/2015 17:33

Bloody hell, that's outrageous! It's in USA so I'm not sure what 'rights' children have there, none by the looks of it.

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Tetleys · 15/07/2015 17:38

wow, fathers have the right not to see their children. it seems unbelievable.

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INickedAName · 16/07/2015 12:06

It's shocking that they were detained. It's also shocking that the father could have them released but hasn't done so. His children saw him hit their mum, it's understandable they might not want to see him, never mind be ordered to attend lunch with him.

I hope it's a one off and those children are returned to mum. But if it becomes a regular thing, it is a feminist issue, because I think violent and controlling exes or husbands will use it to threaten and control.

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basgetti · 16/07/2015 12:21

The judge has reversed her decision in the wake of a public outcry. She had also previously refused to give the Mum a protective order despite allegations of abuse. Hopefully she can use this to have the judge removed from her case.

The ironic thing is the Dad moved abroad, so its fine for him to opt out of his children's lives, but they are expected to present themselves to him when he demands. And the day they were locked up he flew off back to Israel despite the children not being allowed visits by their Mum and her family.

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almondcakes · 16/07/2015 12:37

The judge should be removed from the legal profession, an investigation should be launched, and the children should be paid huge sums in compensation.

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Anniegetyourgun · 16/07/2015 13:12

So much for the land of the free and the home of the brave, eh?

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BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 16/07/2015 13:22

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meglet · 16/07/2015 13:32

it's so awful. I heard about it the other day and was raging about it.

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PosterEh · 16/07/2015 13:48

I can't believe the assumption that the father can't possibly be abusive because he is a well-liked upstanding member of the community and hasn't been arrested.

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PosterEh · 16/07/2015 13:53

Oh and that he'd "move mountains" to see his possessions kids.

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almondcakes · 16/07/2015 14:16

Even if everything the father has said is true, and everything the mother is saying is untrue, it isn't a crime for children not to want a 'healthy relationship' with their father and the kids should not be punished.

And no child should ever be punished by being told they're not allowed to see their siblings, or mother, or people related to their mother, for nine years. Or asked by a judge if they'd rather have lunch with their father or go to the bathroom in front of other people for nine years.

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scallopsrgreat · 16/07/2015 15:05

Oh this is rage-enducing. Punishing the children for the behaviour of the parents.

This is a feminist issue because it once again plays into the trope of evil bitter woman turning children against honourable wonderful father who only wants the best for his children. It's a feminist issue because children have been taken from their mother and their siblings against their will.

The father agreed to the children going to prison. The mother didn't. Remind me again which one is supposed to be the abusive one?

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almondcakes · 16/07/2015 17:24

Here is the actual transcript. It has to be seen to be believed:

download.gannett.edgesuite.net/detnews/2015/pdf/showcausehearing_gorcyca.pdf

The dad then went to Israel for two weeks, despite his contact with the kids being the only way the judge would agree to release them. Apparently they are now on some kind of summer camp (supposedly for kids from juvenile hall). The older one was supposed to be on a high ability course at Stanford before all this happened.

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WhirlpoolGalaxyM51 · 16/07/2015 22:29

Hold on what? She said she would have 3 children ages 9, 10 and 15 imprisoned (in solitary confinement? in separate prisons?) for up to 9 years?

For what, contempt of court?

What is the age of criminal responsibility in the US?

What the fuck?

Going to read the transcript now.

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WhirlpoolGalaxyM51 · 16/07/2015 22:40

Oh my god that transcript. Just, I can't believe that. What is the age of criminal responsibility in the US? What are sentancing guidelines? They have committed no crime and have been locked up with an initial review in 3 months, and judge says she's comfy with them staying til end of high school age (what age is that?) and review then and past 18 also.

I don't understand this at all. Honestly I'm shocked. The little one is only 9. Just, what the fuck?

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WhirlpoolGalaxyM51 · 16/07/2015 22:42

And it's so spiteful.

They aren't allowed to see their mum
Or anyone on their mum's side (grandparents? other relatives)
Or anyone else their mum sends to check if they are oK
Judge says they will have to go to the toilet with people watching, wants to upset them
Similarly says that they will not be allowed to see each other, more spite

I don't get it?

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scallopsrgreat · 16/07/2015 23:28

It is abusive. Those poor kids.

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meglet · 16/07/2015 23:36

I've had a look on twitter and there's a couple of petitions doing the rounds.

Some people are saying the kids have been released? I can't quite tell.

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INickedAName · 16/07/2015 23:41

That transcript :(

Those poor children.

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BiscuitMillionaire · 16/07/2015 23:58

That is unfuckingbelievable. They were released after two weeks, to be sent to summer camp
observer.com/2015/07/update-tsimhoni-kids-freed-effective-immediately/

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DadWasHere · 17/07/2015 04:34

Wow! Poor kids. Not sure it is a feminism issue though.

If the judge were male they would be gone faster than Tim Hunt.

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