Rare night out the other week with DP and his friends. Only one girlfriend there of DP's friends so we buddied up whilst the others caught up.
On the whole lovely evening apart from one of DP's friends who was very drunk having been at the football match and drinking all day. He took one look at me when we arrived and said "I'd fuck it"
I think my response was something like "excuse me?" and he backtracked and said I looked nice not before drinking more beer and drooling over other women near by.
The other girlfriend received a similar comment a little later and then the drunken idiot friend went home.
The girlfriend and I were more pissed off that our respective partners didn't say anything to him. Had that have been a stranger they wouldn't have accepted it, so why was it different?
We could neither be arsed to cause an argument on a night out and I didn't feel annoyed enough to bring it up with DP afterwards either.
But it's just been brought up. DP has been to the gym with his friend (the one with the girlfriend) and he told him his girlfriend and I were annoyed.
I'm now more annoyed by DP's response. DP shook it off with me really saying that he (drunk friend) was paying me a compliment . I said that's definitely not how I saw it but that I was more annoyed that not one of the lads told the drunk friend it was out of order to talk to women like that (or took his beer off him and put him in a cab).
"I'd fuck it" is just wrong to me.
Why does DP think this is ok?
How do I tackle this with him now. It's not a deal breaker (LT relationship, child, mortgage etc) I'm just annoyed he thinks it's a compliment. Or am I completely overreacting?
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Handling this situation with DP
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