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Single sex or co-ed school best for DD?

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Alsoflamingo Sat 15-Nov-14 12:04:50

I went co-ed, but it seems all research suggest that girls do better/are more ambitious (especially in STEM subjects) when boys are not around. So was pretty much set on that idea, but various mates telling me they wouldn't dream of doing it for their DDs because of their bad experiences. They claim that girls' schools are far cliquier/bitchier. I can see that could be the case and am feeling TORN.

Mehitabel6 Sat 15-Nov-14 18:40:15

What does DD want?
I went to both and co-ed was better- they were sex mad in the all girls school.

Lovelydiscusfish Sat 15-Nov-14 18:52:21

There's a thread about this very issue in chat at the moment. I posted earlier but haven't been back. I'll definitely send dd to an all girls' school if I can!
Oh, and the bitchiness thing is just bollocks invented to put women down. I wouldn't listen to or repeat it if I were you.

PandasRock Sat 15-Nov-14 18:58:27

All girls for my dd if I get the chance (ie if the feel of te school suits her).

I went to a girls school and it was great. Yes, some girls were bitchy. Some were sex mad. But not all.

And we had the space to try science and maths and sports and could only look to each other to be the best. No sexist remarks. No feeling the odd one out for wanting to do science. Eg I would probably not have done maths/further maths/physics A level at a coed, as I would not have wanted:

The attention from other girls when I was in a class of (mostly) boys.

To be a minority girl in a class of boys (possibly coloured by my prep school experience here, but that was not good)

I would have struggled to do my best (and probably beat the boys in results terms) because of a combo of the above.

Being at a girls school took all that away, and I could choose to do what I wanted to do.

MN164 Sat 15-Nov-14 20:50:21

Links to other discussion in the hope that's helpful rather than derailing.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/education/2227403-Girls-school-alumni-wages?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/2228906-Single-sex-vs-Co-ed?

Alsoflamingo Sun 16-Nov-14 08:47:16

Brilliant - many thanks all. My gut says all girls for all the reasons you mention, Pandasrock (and that is what she says she wants too), but was just trying to make sure I had considered all angles. I think single sex could become a problem if child was boarding or had no sibling of the opposite sex. But if day pupil and surrounded by opposite sex at home etc then presumably the weirdness/obsession about the opposite sex wouldn't be an issue? Will check out those links, MN164. Thank you.

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