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ilikeyourface Mon 24-Feb-14 16:09:59

Today in school dd was in history, andc they were learing about how Women helped in the war. A boy in her class ( who she has known since primary and are actually prety good friends) sarted saying how women shouln't have been helping in the war, they should have been at home baking, and we could have won the war alot quicker if they have staying where they belonged. Dd chalanged this which turned into a argument with him about sexism (quite lightheartedly she says as like I said they are friends) before dd got angry and sqirted some water at him. She got a detention for this.
In dds school you can ring up and say that your child doesnt have to do the detention if you give a valid reason. Part of me says 'make her do the detention, she shouldnt have squirted the water and should be punished
However another part of me says she was standing up for herself and other women so I should ring up
They are 14 btw .... wwyd

DaenerysTargaryensDragonBaby Mon 24-Feb-14 16:11:40

The debate was fine. Arguing was fine, Standing up for herself/women was fine (very commendable, actually).

Squirting the water was not fine, and she has been fairly punished.

FannyFifer Mon 24-Feb-14 16:13:17

Squirting water negates anything that came before, she lost her temper, has detention, she deserves it.

FannyFifer Mon 24-Feb-14 16:13:52

Losing temper & squirting water not really a feminist issue though.

shakinstevenslovechild Mon 24-Feb-14 16:14:02

I would let the detention stand, the debate was fine, getting angry and squirting water at someone to make your point is not.

Philoslothy Mon 24-Feb-14 16:14:08

Are you seriously excusing squirting water at another student?

Bowlersarm Mon 24-Feb-14 16:15:04

Arguments are fine. Disagreements are fine.

Getting physical because you can't agree isn't fine!

Se deserves the detention for skirting the water.

Ifcatshadthumbs Mon 24-Feb-14 16:18:02

The detention is for squirting water not the feminist debate she behaved in appropriately so should do the detention.

MothratheMighty Mon 24-Feb-14 16:18:13

It was the water that got her into trouble, not her feminist stance.
So she deserves the detention.

ilikeyourface Mon 24-Feb-14 16:19:30

Haha okay ill let the detention stand , I do think I was being a bit pfb when dd told me looking for an something to be a bit wound up with. Thankyou , im glad I have something like mumsnet so I can get a food veiw before I jump and do something! Thankyou all, im not usually this ridiculous, I promise!

waltermittymissus Mon 24-Feb-14 16:19:43

This is nothing to do with feminism.

She's getting a detention for squirting water at someone and so she should!

Lottiedoubtie Mon 24-Feb-14 16:20:00

I concur with everyone else!

Give her a book to read on feminism when she gets home so she can be more eloquent next time.

waltermittymissus Mon 24-Feb-14 16:20:27

X-post smile

Floggingmolly Mon 24-Feb-14 16:20:39

Do you really believe she's being punished for "standing up for herself and other women"? Come on hmm

FannyFifer Mon 24-Feb-14 16:24:15

Thank goodness, you would have looked a bit silly phoning the school.
Glad you've seen sense OP. grin

Bifauxnen Mon 24-Feb-14 16:24:45

Would make her do the dt but would mention to staff that I don't expect her to have to put up with bigotry in the classroom.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ilikeyourface Mon 24-Feb-14 16:31:56

Im going to call dd down now and tell her ' allthough it is okay to voice your opinion , you xannot go around loosing your temper throughing water at people expecting no punishment , therefore I shall make you do the detention and I hope you learn'

I wouldnt have ever thought of that if I hadnt started this theread, mumsnet teaches you alot wink

AcrylicPlexiglass Mon 24-Feb-14 16:33:26

He sounds v annoying, like my sons. Squirting him with water does sound like fun and richly deserved but I think you always have to be prepared to take the consequences when undertaking such action as teachers tend not to see the funny side for fear that the whole class will erupt into a massive water fight. I think she will survive the detention unscathed and maybe she can take a super soaker in on the last day of summer term and deluge him.

Notify Mon 24-Feb-14 16:38:02

That sounds like an excellent lesson to me. A are platform for everyone to state and debate their views. To say the boy should be taken to task is ridiculous

Notify Mon 24-Feb-14 16:38:53

A safe platform....

RiverTam Mon 24-Feb-14 16:40:28

I wish I could get away with squirting water at anyone who's spouting nonsense at me <unhelpful>

longtallsally2 Mon 24-Feb-14 16:44:09

Tell her that you are really proud of her for having the sense to argue her case, and not just to roll her eyes and let him get away with such sexist nonsense.

Then tell her that squirting water still earns you a detention.

(Would she read Mandela's Long Walk to Freedom? It discusses clearly when to move from non-violent argument to a more violent response, when faced with repression!)

DaenerysTargaryensDragonBaby Mon 24-Feb-14 16:44:56

Nice work OP. wink

Your DD sounds great, btw,

But yeah, you can use this opportunity to teach her not to lose her temper.

longtallsally2 Mon 24-Feb-14 16:45:20

squirting water is not really a feminist issue though - I think that should be the MN quote of the week!

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