Seriously?

[suchawimp]

There are actual websites called things like Ladies Against Feminism and Raising Homemakers? And people read them! Lots of people apparently as Raising Homemakers has 20 thousand likes on Facebook.

[ImNotBloody14]

Its so sad isnt it?

I saw a post on fb. Few days ago that read ' your husband will always be your biggest and oldest child that requires the most adult supervision'

I could cry, i really could.

[suchawimp]

Raising Homemakers has posts like Training the Undomestic Daughter, Raising Feminine Daughters and Raising Wives - plus the weekly link up of over a hundred blog pages. Just wow.

Got a strange fascination with the whole thing.

Then there is the blog Women Living Well with over 60 thousand likes on Facebook - Youtube videos about being a 50s wife, a stepford wife and teaching our daughters that homemaking has value.

[Bunnylion]

I've yet to see one of these types of websites/groups that are not based on religious ideology.

[PearlyWhites]

I am proud of being a homemaker and sahm.

[tribpot]

But presumably you don't agree with the statement your husband will always be your biggest and oldest child that requires the most adult supervision, PearlyWhites? It's appallingly sexist for one thing.

As has been said repeatedly on this board, the problem is not raising women - or indeed men - to see SAHP as a valid choice, it's raising them to see it as the only choice.

[TheFallenNinja]

I'm a homemaker and sahd. I work bloody hard for my family and still retain my own identity.

I'm proud of what I achieve.

[TheFallenNinja]

I'm certainly nobodies big child. These sites do frustrate me.

[suchawimp]

"When you?re running errands, are you preaching that mothering children and keeping the home is an honorable profession, something worth getting dressed nicely for and tackling with a smile on your face because you know your labor is not in vain? Or are you confirming the popular idea that housewifery turns you into a slovenly, unkempt, aged and ragged woman?"

[Eyesunderarock]

'Or are you confirming the popular idea that housewifery turns you into a slovenly, unkempt, aged and ragged woman?"'

I tend to find that working turns me into a slovenly, unkempt ragged woman, old before her time.

[PearlyWhites]

No tribpot I don't agree with that statement

[EATmum]

Surely they can't be for real. Sigh

[nooka]

I'm teaching both my children that looking after your home and family is a necessary part of life, and I hope giving them a few useful skills. So I suppose I am in some ways 'raising homemakers'. I just don't discriminate between my son and daughter, and I certainly have no intention of infantalising my dh (who does more than his fair share of homemaking in any case).

I have a dd with some quite 'butch' tendencies and my ds is currently an out and out brony. I am rather pleased that they both like pushing the stereotypes.

[suchawimp]

Sites like that seem to put a lot of pressure on women.

[Eyesunderarock]

Sounds good nook, being a homemaker should not be defined by gender.

[Eyesunderarock]

nooka.
I have no idea what happened to the a in my last post.

[NiceTabard]

Great site

"Painting a picture of biblical femininity"

Super

[NiceTabard]

I like this:

"My little girls were sitting playing dolls on the floor together when the 6yo came up to me and said, ?Mom, you?ve just got to sew us a prince for our dolls!?

To which I replied, ?You know, I really, really need to do that?your princesses need a prince!? She immediately ran over to her sisters and proclaimed, ?Mom says she?s going to make us a prince!? and they all squealed.

It was one of those moments that could have slipped past me?just a normal part of our every-day lives?until I realized the profundity of the whole scenario.

While we are sitting around as a family, reading the Bible aloud or watching a movie together in the evening, I am usually sewing on something, something for my little girls, or mending some jeans for my boys, or crocheting doilies for the furniture. " etc etc and so on.

[NiceTabard]

Oooh

"There are many types of homes, but I think the best of these is where a woman presides as a benevolent monarch in the fashion of Jesus, as the servant of all."

I am loving this site.
Thank you OP

[OddSockMonster]

But I like being unkempt, it's one of the best bits of being a SAHP.

Bonkers sites, they really are. No idea they had such a following though.

[NiceTabard]

The ladies against feminism site is less hilariously bonkers and more utterly terrifying. Just in case anyone was thinking of going over there for a laugh.

[suchawimp]

I am reading through some of the blogs that have linked up - new obsession!!

Loving .....

youngkeepersofthehome.wordpress.com/im-bored-single-and-still-living-at-home-with-my-mother/

home-keepinghearts.blogspot.co.uk/2012/05/phg-chapter-4-which-way-will-you-choose.html

www.themodestmomblog.com/2012/04/posts-2/

[NiceTabard]

Good grief to me it's just all totally nutso.

My next door neighbours live this way and when they talk about it with me I never know WTAF to say! I tend to stick to non-committal "hmmm" noises.

[grimbletart]

Personally I think these are the sites to turn to you need a really good spit coffee over your keyboard laugh

Nothing like a load of Stepford wackos to feed one's sense of the ridiculous.

[Thurlow]

See, I'm actually a little torn on this - because there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be a SAHM, or to enjoy cooking, cleaning and sewing, or to like wearing skirts. So there's a huge core of what some of these blogs are saying which to me is pretty much fine, it's just one woman making her point and explaining her interests in the same way as a blog by a rugby-playing, finance-working single woman stridently advocating her interests and ideals isn't wrong either.

Now I agree that I think a lot of what some of these blogs are saying is absolutely bollocks (DP and I both would still benefit from adult supervision ) but... I wonder if part of the 'bleurgh' reaction to blogs like these a ridiculing of anything seen as traditionally feminine?