Erotic litterature - What do you think?(56 Posts)
Not usually posting on here but I always enjoy reading posts in this section so wanted your pov on that.
I have noticed recently that you can find more and more erotic literature on the bookshelves next to more 'classic' literature. So it seems to become a very 'acceptable' thing.
But is it OK on a feminism pov or just as bad as porn (albeit it's only words on paper not real people)?
Darkest: would you like a link to the book's Facebook page, which has an extract uploaded? I don't think you have to have a Facebook account to view thepage.
And yes too much erotic fiction does depict a submissive woman and a dominant man. WH Smith and Tesco seem to be drowning in it at the mo
Solid i read loads of Black Lace books in the 90s. And a few of them did feature powerful/dominant women and submissive men.
A few titles off the top of my head. Dark Obsession Rude Awakening Nadyas Quest The Devil and the Deep Blue Sea (that was the first one i read which i got free with a copy of New Woman which is how i found out about BL.
Also used to buy Scarlet for the Cliterature section (they carried a really good serial by Mathilde Madden.)
When i read erotica i quite like reading about f/f even though ive never actually experienced it and m/m though i like m/f too.
Your book sounds great. Just my cup of tea.
Anyway, I now have a release date for My Book. And would actually love to get it discussed all over the internet, naturally. I'm not just being a squawky MeMeMeeeee! author here, I do genuinely think that it's worth discussing why so much erotic (and romantic) fiction aimed at women has to feature a submissive woman and a dominant man. I've been told over and over again that this is 'what women want' but at the same time I know a lot of actual women who would far rather read about a powerful woman and a submissive/innocent/less powerful man/men. Anyone know any other good discussion sites to muscle in on?
Lurcio: a big chunk of the reason was more and more people getting their fiction jollies for free on the internet (the same thing happened to a lot of mainstream porn magazines; that market is nearly dead now). Another aspect was publisher buy-outs; imprints getting swallowed up into bigger and bigger publishing houses and, to an extent, the really big ones going 'Ewww! Smut! No thanks' and first starving the imprints of resources and then closing them down. Of course, they've changed their minds now for which we do sort of owe Ms James a pint.
But there's an ongoing problem with erotic material of any kind that's made by/for women and it's this: media control is in the hands of men. So if you are a woman producing erotic entertainment material aimed at other women, you will only be able to get so far before you hit a brick wall in the shape of a man in a suit who says 'Well my wife wouldn't like it, therefore it won't sell' - and you get no distribution/no promotion/no backing or you end up having to ruin your product by filling it up with adverts for lipstick and tampons/mansplaining/tee-hee-not-really-boys antifeminism.
I'm guessing that among the putative reasons was "the mainstream insistence that women want love, not sex". I'd be interested to know what you think was the real reason for the dip in sales/ interest round then?
OK, there have always been quite a lot of women reading (and writing) commercially-published erotic fiction. When the Black Lace novels first started coming out in 1993 there was a lot of whining in the mainstream media that only men would buy them, and this really was down to the mainstream's (then) insistence that women want love, not sex.
There is a lot more openly erotic fiction around these days ie in the last year or so, which is mainly down to EL James, but not entirely so. About 4/5 years ago the genre was allegedly dead in the water; there were various reasons for this being claimed, some of which were truer than others. What really is true is that a lot of women like erotic fiction, and that there is some genuinely good stuff out there if you hunt for it. ALong with a lot of crap, of course, but that's true of every genre of fiction (horror, crime, chicklit, whinyarse lit...)
SGB, as well as talking about your own book, have you any opinion on the varying views of different posters that there is more erotic fiction in bookshops now, that the majority if it is immersed in gender stereotypes and that most of the people who are buying it are men?
I think the posters on here who are saying they read erotic fiction (including myself) are discussing from a perspective of reading online fiction in fandom, while others are coming from the perspective of not reading any erotic fiction at all. It would be interesting to hear about commercial fiction from somebody who reads and writes it.
Ooh, thank you whoever started the thread. Great timing. Can I bang on (and on and on) about My Book? It's a 'femdom pansexual romance'. The heroine is older than the main two male characters, who engage in a certain amount of rude stuff with each other....
I have always preferred femdom stories with a bit of m/m action - it's not that I object to people getting turned on by or enjoying the standard helpless-girlie-big-strong-hero stuff, it's just that it doesn't work for me.
MrsD, yes I have watched all of series three so far. I'm unhappy this week, as you can imagine.
Freya Oddly enough you're about the fifth unconnected person who's recommended Vikings to me, and all because of the (potential) threesome aspect I've actually read a couple based on recs by someone I usually trust and quite liked them, but I need to to watch the show to really get a grip on the characters. The one problem with fanfic (of any flavour) is that writers, ime, tend to rely on readers already being familiar with the characters so don't flesh them out as well as they would with an original character.
poignant pregnancy Erica/Boyd fic You watching S3?
Thank you for the ideas
LurcioLovesFrankie Ha! We have that in the Teenwolf fandom, although it's called FailwolfFriday I quite like reading it I have to say.
NiceTabard I'm with you with those reasons.
Picking up on PeaceAndHope's point: I agree the lazy gender stereotyping is nasty and in some instances dangerous (in fact, in contrast to Freya, the idea that women in a nasty relationship could identify with some aspects of 50 shades of shite is precisely why I find it so repulsive - it promulgates the myth that abusive men can change if only you're nice enough and find the right moves in the bedroom to please them). But is it the erotica that's the problem? All the attitudes you describe are ones that are almost universal in mainstream commercial romantic fiction, from Beauty and the Beast through to Mills and Boon and Chick Lit.
I particulary hate the loss of virginity plot line. It's interesting to draw parallels between slash and het at this point. When it's het, it's almost always experienced man and female ingenue, with all the nasty patriarchal overtones of purity, loss of purity, taking possession of property, domination, etc. Now you do come across quite a lot of slash where one character has known they were gay from an early age while the other is only just realising that they're gay (the being in denial about the nature of their feelings phase is quite a useful plot device for building up sexual tension). But when it comes to the first sexual encounter, it's just a mismatch of experience. There's no additional baggage that comes with it, which I find very interesting.
On the slash thing I discovered fanfic a couple of years ago (after reading about it on MN) and am a lifelong star trek fan so guess where I ended up! It's been a bit of a revelation and I have spent time trying to figure out why slash is so appealing.
For me, I can come up with
As they are blokes I don't have to identify too much with either of them - I don't have to empathise / connect with the female character. Which is kind of freeing.
The relationships are those of real equals and are easily written as such because neither the writer nor the reader has any subconscious stereotyping going on.
I like men so two men is better than one
No-one seems to wonder why lots of porn for men features women having sex. It's the same thing I guess.
Still interesting and worth checking out. On archive of our own the best way to identify something worth reading is probably to look for a program that you like and search by kudos or number of reviews, and then go through until something takes your fancy. Most fanfic is short story type length but there is novel length stuff and some really huge series. Some of it is terrible and some is great. It is very addictive though so be warned!
Of course majority of them are immersed in traditional gender stereotypes.
You don't even have to open the book, just read the title- The Greek Billionaire's Innocent Virgin being one example. The man should be rich and powerful, the woman should be helpless, innocent and virginal.
Even the BDSM novels usually involve women who are lifestyle "subs" and enjoy being submissive to a man. Rarely will you come across a novel in mainstream erotica where the woman is the dominant.
Not to mention the fact that most women in these books have token careers, which they promptly leave "out of choice" as soon as they marry their overbearing billionaire.
Abortion is a huge taboo and the only answer to an unplanned pregnancy in these books is to have the baby (not saying there is anything wrong with having the baby, just saying that they never even bring up the possibility of a termination even in the most adverse of circumstances)
There are certainly exceptions, but most the erotica I've come across has been fairly awful for womankind.
MrsDimitri - I am so with you on "penis touches, immediate orgasms"! I feel like trying to start a campaign for real sex (I've talked to several writers both of slash and het about this - there's actually quite a few of us interested in this issue). My American friend LP and I have been experimenting with the idea of what she calls the "sexfail" - writing fics where sex goes wrong, either for angsty reasons (hers) or humorous reasons (mine). I've also tried to write scenes where things are clumsy. But one thing you have to remember are the constraints of the genre - most of us are writing/reading for escapist fantasy. So you end up with what LP calls "idealised realism": yes to acknowledging clitoral stimulation, probably no to not having orgasms (otherwise your fic ends up quite literally anticlimactic - though I have come across a couple of good fics which tackle the fact that it may take women quite a while with a partner before they experience an orgasm for the first time). Writing has certainly opened my eyes to just how difficult it is to do.
The other thing that you're continually hitting up against as a writer of het fic are the limitations of language, and this I feel is definitely a feminist issue. Think about talking about clitoral stimulation. Well, you're certainly not going to use that phrase . So - ciltoris? Too clinical. Clit - bit better, but not my favourite word. Head into Mills and Boon territory with euphemisms like sensitive bud - ladybits immediately retreat into larynx! Where is the female equivalent of "cock"? I know some writers head for the 18th century and use "quim".
I will suggest a fandom to you. It is the drama series Vikings. The main female character is the shield maiden and mother, Lagertha. She is in no way a passive or submissive character. Here is a short video of her in action:
She is married to Ragnar. Here is a video about their relationship:
They live with an English monk called Athelstan, who starts out as their slave. Here is his relationship with Ragnar:
It isn't canon, although Lagertha and Ragnar proposition Athelstan and he refuses due to being a religious virgin celibate monk. It is very appealing to slashers, but because so much of Ragnar's sexuality and romantic behaviour is bound up with Lagertha's character, it mostly has to be written as a relationship with all three of them, but written by people from slash fandoms. It is a small fandom that will hopefully grow (the show has been renewed for a second season). I think that would be an easy way into het because even if you read het bits and think nope, you still have the slash happening in the same fics. The whole thing is immersed in supernatural belief systems in the show too.
If you want something more strictly supernatural, I would look at fic about Erica and Boyd, two beta werewolves from MTV's Teen Wolf series, which is mostly a slash fandom. There are definitely slash writers who also write Erica/Boyd.
I tried to look up fic for you, but am so into angst that I started reading some poignant pregnancy Erica/Boyd fic instead, and so I am probably not the best person to identify your preferred tropes.
Freya can you link some decent het fanfic? I have to say I read 95% m/m slash (and that other 5% will be genderswap rather than actual het) because I tend to get quite twitchy at unrealistic depictions of het sex - particularly those starry eyed ones where the woman basically gets touched by a penis and explodes into rainbows and fireworks of multiple orgasms. I find I don't care about it so much when it's just men involved - one step removed I guess.
I know a few people have done studies on why women seem to enjoy reading and writing slash so much, but I've never read any solid conclusions. It's interesting I think, I'd love to know more but it's not something women really talk about off the internet. I know that real life people who know I read (and used to write) it (I get a bit passionate about it when I'm drunk ) tend to sideeye me a bit over it.
I've read posts arguing that it's anti-women, and I've read posts arguing the opposite and both have valid points.
When I worked in a book shop, I would honestly estimate that it was purchased by 80% men.
This has made me very cynical about the target audience that the books were published for.
Pointed my fanfic friend at this thread, and she said it was nice to see sex-positive feminism, so I explained that it was much more nuanced than this - this is the reply I sent her (I'm copying it because I think it's helped me to clarify in my own mind what the difference between porn and erotica is):
Sex positive - now there's a difficult phrase, bit like "pro life". One of those phrases which has been co-opted by a special interest group and come to mean the opposite of what it should. I think most of us on mumsnet are sex positive with lower case letters, as in, we enjoy it and see nothing wrong with enjoying it (though will engage in a feminist critique of individual sexual practices, up to and including Dworkin's critique of PIV, which I think I've talked to you about in the past). But it's been adopted by a certain minority group, and Sex Positive Feminism has come to be synonymous with an uncritical defence of the porn industry.
As far as I can see, there are two main problems with mainstream visual porn. First, a lot of it involves the actual rape and abuse of real human beings (and only watching home made doesn't get you off the hook, because you can't know whether the video was filmed or shared with the woman's consent). And even "ethical porn" is problematic because on the whole it is marketed by the same distributors as mainstream porn, so by buying it you're still lining the pockets of people involved in the wholesale abuse of women. And the second thing is that a lot of porn objectifies women and encourages abuse. Even if we're not talking graphic rape/SM stuff, when a bloke tries to coerce his girlfriend into anal when she doesn't want it, using porn to normalise it, or comes on a woman's face on the first date without asking her if she likes it, that's the influence of the porn industry. As far as I can see, Sex Positive Feminism (TM) is a label for attempting to shut down debate about the real conditions under which porn is made, and the influence it exerts on sexual behaviour, by labelling anyone who object as a "prude". And then it puts the cherry on the woman-hating icing by trying to persuade us that pole dancing is empowering.
I'm reading this thread and RPing (although gen not erotic). I actually don't want to be too harsh on 50 shades. It is ultimately a story about somebody whose partner has sexual interests that she is unhappy with, and how she eventually changes that relationship so her needs are respected. It has parallels to the current situation of many women feeling at odds in relationships with the sexuality men are bringing in from porn, so maybe that is why they feel the story says something to them. It isn't my area of interest, but I think there must be something there for others. People read problematic things sometimes because they have to deal with problematic stuff in their own lives.
BTW I'm flicking between this thread and reading a slash fic by a mumsnetter!
Not sure that I do know - I'd say I probably read 75% slash, for very similar reasons to the ones you've described. It's depressing when one comes across sci fi fan fics which I would have thought offer a perfect opportunity to challenge thinking on gender, and fic after fic reads like a bloody Doris Day movie. Still at least there's slightly more chance of a realistic description of female sexuality. Probably the best het fic I've read are fics for some of the American crime drama series, I think because most of those pass the Bechdel test in their original screen incarnations - lots of strong female characters talking about non-romantic issues like forensics and playing as big a role as the men. (Which isn't to say these shows aren't problematic in other ways - treatment of sexual crime is always a very grey area on TV: I think there was a thread about it recently). But as a rule of thumb, the more equal the original show/book, the better the het fanfic is.
50 shades is probably not representative of any kind of fanfic. Out of all the kinds of fanfic available, publishers are going to choose something they will appeal to the book buying public. So they chose the thing that they thought would be most appealing to the widest number of people. Presumably (Lurcio maybe you know?) there is a wide range of different kinds of het fanfic so people will find their niche. That makes it not suitable as a commercial venture. I quite like the fact that women's sexual and romantic interests are so varied that in most cases you can't cater to them by publishing something generic.
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