I hardly ever post in here but the dance teacher has wound me up.

[freddiemisagreatshag]

Apparently she can't chase my ex-husband for payment of fees because dance is a thing mummies do.

[duchesse]

Or it's just easier to pick on you because you're there and less likely to beat her up?

[freddiemisagreatshag]

He does the pick up and drops off 90% of the time because it's his night with them. That's why he pays - practically it's easier.

[duchesse]

And because surely it's not her problem if you have split up- you are both still liable to pay her fee. (obv I don't know your individual circumstances or the arrangement you had with her).

[tethersend]

Tell her money is a thing that Daddies do, as your pretty little head just doesn't understand it

[duchesse]

Ah, sorry, x posts. In that case she can ask him when he drops off. He won't be unwilling to pay, surely?

[freddiemisagreatshag]

Dance started after we split up. He has always paid the fees. I've never ever in my life paid a dance fee for DD.

She referred me to the notes that were sent home. I pointed out that since I don't do drop off and pick up I'd never seen a note. And if she told me what the fees were I'd bring a cheque tomorrow.

She said that wasn't her problem and it was up to me to "reach an agreement" with my ex.

And that she chased mummies because dance is what mummies do.

Not this mummie.

[freddiemisagreatshag]

He swears blind he's never seen a note for this term's fees and I believe him. He's never missed paying before. There are reasons (special competitions for older ones that DD wasn't involved in) why it is not beyond the bounds of probability that DD get a note.

[tungthai]

I think a stroppy note is required.

[TheDoctrineOfSnatch]

The mummy thing is cringey. Fair enough if she'd said, "I'm chasing everyone who picks up today." but she didn't.

[AuntieStella]

There's usually some sort of enrolment form when a DC starts an activity.

Who did the one for DD for this class? If DH, refer teacher to that note, and to him.

[freddiemisagreatshag]

ExH did the enrollment stuff and put me on the form as second contact and him as first (I asked him that yesterday)

I only do dance on very odd occasions when it falls on my time. Not usually - just competitions that fall on my days. He does them.

I wonder what they'd do if a boy turned up to the dance class I wonder if I could persuade DS to don a skirt and tights .....

[showtunesgirl]

FFS, has this teacher not seen Billy Elliot?

[runningforthebusinheels]