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PretzelTime Fri 22-Mar-13 19:27:43

"wankbadger" grin
Love it. And uh yes that site looks useful too!!

UptoapointLordCopper Fri 22-Mar-13 16:16:52

My colleagues swear but don't apologise. grin So do I. But I think the thing to do is to ask why they apologise. What answer do you think you'll get?

I love asking why. Got it my my kids. smile

elportodelgato Fri 22-Mar-13 15:54:20

WANKBADGER - new favourite word

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Fri 22-Mar-13 15:50:55

I normally look incredulous and say, "no, that's fine." Next time, shall I say, "Swear all you want, wankbadger. I'm not fucking well made of gossamer and fairy dust."?

AbigailAdams Fri 22-Mar-13 13:15:51

The page hasn't mentioned (unless I've missed it) "this isn't a feminist issue", one of my favourites.

SPBInDisguise Fri 22-Mar-13 13:14:43

Will read the list later but I assume overthinking and get a sense if humour are both there.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Fri 22-Mar-13 13:14:25

Love the "more important things" one:

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Fri 22-Mar-13 13:12:36

YY LordCopper. Men who swear in meetings apologise specifically to me. It fucks me right off.

mcmooncup Fri 22-Mar-13 12:27:36

Oh god I'm all annoyed now


Damnit. Another revelation to deal with and become even more humourless wink

UptoapointLordCopper Fri 22-Mar-13 11:53:42

Apparently it was to reaffirm that the space is a male space. You are tolerated as a woman, but you are reminded that you are a feminine creature, all soft and gentle. We men are graciously allowing you to be here, though sometimes we forget ourselves and use "masculine language" which may offend you. We do apologise, but remember, you are only here on sufferance. You don't belong here in the grown-up rough and tumble world, you lovely creature. And aren't we nice to apologise - it shows that we are not sexist. Something like that. wink

mcmooncup Fri 22-Mar-13 11:23:41

What was the reason?
Need. To. Know. wink

UptoapointLordCopper Thu 21-Mar-13 19:21:49

Interesting. Also I think slug has a link on derailing. It is so liberating to have an explanation for why one is upset by certain action, IFKWIM. For eg. I was very pleased to learn a possible reason why I was irritated by people apologising for swearing from one thread some time ago. Not that I got less irritated, but at least I know why. In fact I possibly got more irritate... hmm But I have a reason! grin

slug Thu 21-Mar-13 09:59:20

Am loving Moff's law.

mcmooncup Thu 21-Mar-13 09:45:24

I came across this rather comprehensive list of silencing tactics used by anti-feminists to get us to STFU.

I really like it.

We see all of them on here. I see all of them in RL. It is depressing, but I have found being able to understand what is going on when you are trying to get your views understood has been really helpful.

"Oh, he is using a silencing technique here....I shall not get insanely angry and personally insult him" etc.

I hope it's helpful for others too smile

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