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Do families with an SAHP tradition think it's worth educating their DDs?

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CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 21-Mar-13 08:46:27

Provocative but semi-serious question prompted by a shock conversation with the (Neanderthal throwback) DH of a SAHM who sent their DS to private school but not their DDs because - and I quote - 'girls don't need to be well-educated to run a home'. I should add that this is a smart, outwardly normal, Cheshire family.

Why would someone who is vehemently opposed to mothers using childcare or being in paid employment think it was worthwhile educating girls or encouraging them to pursue a challenging career? Feel free to flame.

AbigailAdams Thu 21-Mar-13 15:19:03

"What on earth makes this man (or anyone, for that matter) think he can choose his daughters' future?"


TheDoctrineOfSnatch Thu 21-Mar-13 17:27:32

Also, his own education seems lacking if he can't imagine significant changes in society in the next 20 years (or notice those that happened in the last 20!)

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Thu 21-Mar-13 17:29:04

Op, is Mr Neanderthal in a position to make decisions about employing people, as I see he thinks mothers shouldn't have paid employment?

HairyHandedTrucker Thu 21-Mar-13 20:44:47

I want to be a sahp. My dd may not want to... I am not going to force the idea on her obviously. I do think a family "works" better when someone is home when the little ones are small. That's the way me and dh feel, so that's the way we run our family. Not every one agrees, so they do it differently. My kids may not. I can no more dictate who be a sahp than any other occupation for my children.

Also I think either parents is capable being a sahp and my ds is just as likely to choose to stay at home as my daughter (or not).

Mintyy Thu 21-Mar-13 20:49:59

Its a deeply stupid position. I would hope that most grown ups with even a tiny soupcon of education (or basic common sense) understand that their children are individuals who are going to live their own lives. The way we choose to live as parents is neither here nor there.

AKissIsNotAContract Thu 21-Mar-13 20:59:50

My parents did the opposite - sent my sister and I to private school while my brothers went to state school.

AngelsWithSilverWings Thu 21-Mar-13 21:04:05

I will teach both my son and my daughter that if they want to be free to choose the life that they want to enjoy then they will have to do the very best that they can at school.

I only have the luxury of being able to choose to be a SAHM because I did well at school, got a good well paid job and saved and saved until I was in a position to have children and not have to continue working.

I didn't marry a rich man to get the life I have now. I worked for 20 years before I had kids and always planned to be in the position to be a SAHM.

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