uni club event/party - office hoes and CEOs(41 Posts)
Am I right to be bothered by this? (Yes, I am - you should see the posters). But is it worth complaining, and who would I complain to? And how would I word my complaint - I've never complained about anything in my life, but this has really annoyed me for some reason.
"Oh come on! are you really saying that women don't get some pleasure out of such an evening?"
No, of course women will get pleasure from the evening. We must take our pleasure where we can.
I think we need to ask ourselves what sort of empowerment it is, to have the attention of your peers.
Because it sounds remarkably needy to me - the very opposite of power.
I note that men aren't expected to be satisfied with empowerment - they get the real thing, power.
I don't think the issue is how people dressed at the event (all men in suits, women in a range of things from actual workwear to 'sexy secretary' short skirts, stockings and bras out, judging by the photos on facebook), or whether they enjoyed themselves. Most of them probably had a great time. It is also completely irrelevant that the president of the club that organised the event is a women.
The name of the event is still offensive and inappropriate. Haven't had a reply to my complaint yet...
And yet the term "Hoes" is being used.
What are Hoes exactly? Whores perhaps? i.e. women who are there solely for the sexual gratification of men. Ironic or otherwise it's still deeply offensive to half the population.
"The men are the ones for whose benefit this whole thing is being done"
Oh come on! are you really saying that women don't get some pleasure out of such an evening?
Some will laugh at each other in their attempts to dress as hoes.
Some will be empowered, both from the attention of their peers and others.
Some will laugh at the ill fitting cloths the CEOs wear or their choice of tie.
Women will dress as high powered CEOs and Men as Hoes..They'll laugh at themselves, each other and just about everything inbetween
Many of the women will achieve things that we can only dream of- One night with a short skirt and extra long eyelashes won't change that.
and for whats it's worth many of these "ents" are organised by both the men and the women.
In short it's silly, it's fun and can't be extended to the world outside the student bar.
"And the point about 'other women go along with it, so feminists are wrong' is a moot point. The women going along with it are human being with reasons of their own. The men are irrelevant. If anyone has a problem with this stuff, the women are the ones you should be concentrating on. "
The men are the ones for whose benefit this whole thing is being done.
It's a compliment to them. Women decorating themselves for their assessment and enjoyment.
And the concept of office hoes being promoted to ensure that men think of women as being othered. And that women junior to them in their offices in the future, can be fitted into that stereotype.
As did I, Wilson. Which is why I suggested she engaged with them.
And as a young student I would probably have been picketing outside Ah, the days of a full student grant and its associated time to actually engage in things outwith one's lecture programmes and work...
Thing is, the people who attended the event aren't posting on here. The person who was opposed to it is so if it's OK with you ncg I'll direct my energy to responding to her post.
au contraire, I'm on a hipster 80s revival ironic tip! (yes i'm old...).
I did suggest something similar Bobbi, although substitute Karren Brady or Mary Portas for Alexis - you are showing your age
It might seem a bit odd, to attend something you disagree with, but it also might give a better idea of what these events are actually about, and why they are so popular. There are theories abound on here, but I wonder what the reality is, i.e. what the perceptions and reasoning of the women actually are?
you see my immediate response to this was a party with a load of girls dressed like Alexis Carrington. Why have all of you assumed that it's the men being the CEOs?
I don't know about unis in NZ but if there isn't a women's officer or a gender/equality officer, could that be something you could put in motion? It would be of long-term benefit if your uni is prone to pulling stunts like this.
'I don't need to be told what's a productive activity to engage in, thanks all the same.'
My suggestion was to beansmum, who asked how she should complain. I thought it might be a bit productive than a letter. It wasn't directed at you, Promqueen.
Mech, is there a particular reason for this polarisation in your experience? Is it by class, region (I assume you are in the UK), educational background? Or is there no common denominator?
NCG, I am in this environment, I'm at university atm and most of my course mates are in their early twenties. The way a lot of them (women and men) talk about women is horrible - if they're not ugly, they're slags. It's Rihanna's fault she got beaten up. Getting dressed up in a short skirt during the day = slut. Doing it at night = fine.
However, there are also plenty of women and men who do not talk about women like that.
You can't say that it is just a generational thing. I think that it is more polarised now - there is both a push against sexism and a pull towards it and less middle ground.
Re the video game thing, that isn't me.
Cultures can change. Perhaps the students don't see the culture that my generation grew up with as relevant to them. Perhaps they see your views as outdated. I don't know. However, unless you talk to these women, you will never know. So, in response to the OP, my suggestion would be to attend a similar event and talk to the attendees. Enquire, discuss, debate. It has to be more productive than sitting here arguing the toss.
I do understand why some people find this distasteful (not that that is important). Would it matter if the women attending had gone dressed in business suits, and the men dressed in fishnets etc. a la Rocky Horror? Does anyone know if this happened? Students were never averse to dressing up in the old days.
And the point about 'other women go along with it, so feminists are wrong' is a moot point. The women going along with it are human being with reasons of their own. The men are irrelevant. If anyone has a problem with this stuff, the women are the ones you should be concentrating on. What about standing outside the event and talking to women as they enter? You may gain a better understanding of their motivations, and vice versa.
SU ran a "Pull a Pig" night a couple of years ago in Freshers Week. Equality and Diversity Officer absolutely roasted them as did University big bods. This year the SU Exec team are mostly women and events have been considerably better (better organised, better promoted, more inclusive and better attended).
Lots of people went to this event, it was yesterday (or possibly the day before) and tickets were sold out. I don't know the numbers but I'm assuming there were plenty of women there.
I'm pretty sure most of the women who attended would disagree with the message the theme sends. The problem is it wasn't anything out of the ordinary - this kind of thing is so normal that you don't even notice or you convince yourself it's not worth bothering about. And sometimes you realise staying home won't change anything and will only make your friends think you're weird. Which is important when you're 19. It's still important to me and I'm 31.
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