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Another vent about my father's wife... sorry

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Sunnywithshowers Sun 24-Feb-13 18:42:50

My father posted on Facebook today that he was horrified that men were in Oxford's cheerleading team. Wife posts in agreement because 'men should be men and women should be women'.

I tell dad that it's because cheerleading is a gymnastic sport and men tend to chuck women around (technical term smile). Cue dad saying thanks, he didn't know that.

This was her response: No <dad's name> you are just normal, and I can tell you that it is not only mature people in this country that feel like this, I know lots of young people who are saddened by the way our country is going sad


bran Sun 24-Feb-13 18:49:29

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roughtyping Sun 24-Feb-13 18:50:31

Ha bran! Excellent plan!

FloraFox Sun 24-Feb-13 18:50:38

The country is going to the dogs because there are men cheerleading? Wow. Never mind the economy, who cares about the AAA rating... it's all about the cheerleaders.

Sunnywithshowers Sun 24-Feb-13 18:53:02

I may try your tip next time bran. smile

A while ago she commented that she couldn't post on a lot of peoples' pages - I wonder why...

Dad and I have a strained relationship (even more so since I've found out he's been born again as a sexist, creationist, homophobe) and I try and be polite to her. But she's a nasty fuckwit with no sense of humour.

AThingInYourLife Sun 24-Feb-13 18:56:44

"No <dad's name> you are just normal, and I can tell you that it is not only mature people in this country that feel like this, I know lots of young people who are saddened by the way our country is going"


I love the idea of all the young people being terribly upset about the corrupting influence of male cheerleaders on society.

"I'm so worried about my future - high unemployment, sky-high house prices, years of debt to pay for an education that won't improve my job prospects...

"Shut up Jocasta, you sap. There are men chucking women about gymnastically while people watch sport. We are DOOMED!"


Moominsarehippos Sun 24-Feb-13 18:59:55

Has she been the bad influence on your dad?

PuddingWhine Sun 24-Feb-13 19:04:02

She can't possibly be so weird as to think that men doing traditionally female things (not that I approve of cheerleading, I would tell my dd to go out and do her OWN sport, a real sport) but nobody feels that men cheerleading is the breakdown of society, she was in primitive terms urinating around the lampost.

I really like the "i love your sense of humour!" suggestion. Love that. Will use that soon I hope!

Sunnywithshowers Sun 24-Feb-13 19:13:36

moomin This is my dad's third marriage and he changes personality traits with each one. He was a dope-smoking, left wing hippy and folk singer when married to my mum. Then went on to be a slightly right wing liberal new ager when married to my stepmum.

Now he's a born again Christian who thinks gays are an abomination, the world was created in 7 days, men and women have specific gender roles and atheists are all communists. He's always been big on gender roles (EA to my mother: stopped her wearing make up while bringing up me and DSis)

I don't blame her for being a bad influence. He's almost always been a selfish man and I think now he's merely letting his prejudices out freely, rather than hiding them and being 'Mr Nice Guy'. (As for being a loving Christian he regularly will go 2/3 years without phoning me - FB means that he remembers I'm alive occasionally.

Thing smile

Pudding yes she can be that weird.

TheCrackFox Sun 24-Feb-13 19:14:14

You could always inform her that you thought she would be pleased that men are doing a traditional sport.

Cheerleading used to be a male preserve

Would be interesting to see how she argues herself out of this one.

Sunnywithshowers Sun 24-Feb-13 19:15:44

Crackfox that is awesome - thank you. It's going straight on FB!

SanityClause Sun 24-Feb-13 19:21:31

Wow, CrackFox, I learn something new on MN, every day!

Sunnywithshowers Sun 24-Feb-13 19:23:00

I got this response to that link:



StewieGriffinsMom Sun 24-Feb-13 19:24:36

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PuddingWhine Sun 24-Feb-13 19:26:11

wow sunny! did your father marry somebody younger than you! I'm trying to imagine saying "bothered" to somebody older than I am!

Sunnywithshowers Sun 24-Feb-13 19:53:12

She's about 14 years older than me, and a grandmother.

It's a hugely mature response smile

MinnieBar Sun 24-Feb-13 20:21:11

Suggest she watches 'Bring It On' - male cheerleaders aplenty there. Plus Faith from Buffy is in it.
Probably not the place to say it, but I love that film!

StarNoodle Sun 24-Feb-13 20:27:08

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kickassangel Sun 24-Feb-13 23:39:57

Glad someone could link to an article.

But why should she bother to read something factual when she can just be a bigot?

tribpot Sun 24-Feb-13 23:43:26

But you see her point - the economy is doomed because men are STEALING WOMEN'S JOBS.

Ponders Sun 24-Feb-13 23:44:58

George W Bush was a cheerleader at college

I think she needs to know that grin

(apols if this was already linked)

Tortoiseonthehalfshell Sun 24-Feb-13 23:45:34

(What does "bothered" mean? In this context?)

Ponders Sun 24-Feb-13 23:47:01

"do I look bothered?"

Ponders Sun 24-Feb-13 23:47:37

(Catherine Tate)

Greensleeves Sun 24-Feb-13 23:47:45

She sounds as thick as pig mince

Is she a sexist creationist homophobe too?

I would post "it's spelt bovvered" but then I am very childish. Moreover I wouldn't waste time and effort thinking up an intelligent responsibility for somebody who thinks the Earth is flat grin

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