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"I don't like being called a feminist. I'm a woman. That's it."

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AnnieLobeseder Mon 12-Nov-12 21:04:30

I read this opinion piece in the Huffington Post today.

To quote a small part of it: "If I'm honest, I don't take feminists seriously. Unfortunately I feel these protests don't do much for women. Certainly, they create a sense of solidarity among those who take part, but beneficial? I'm not so sure."

To some degree I agree with her - I've found solidarity in feminism, but I've also found outrage and impotence. Will my awakening change the world? Probably not, but it's made it more uncomfortable to live in the world, unchanged as it is.

But I don't see what difference changing the label of feminism will do, except to create a new name that far too many people don't identify with.

FastidiaBlueberry Fri 16-Nov-12 20:21:10

Ooh that looks meaty lordcopper.

Will print it off at work...

LRDtheFeministDragon Fri 16-Nov-12 20:26:30

I need to look at that too, lord, thanks.

I don't think it's surprising about single childless women vs married men with children. There are two things (which I bet well all know). One is, many married men effectively have a live-in maid/PA in the form of their wife. The other is, single childless women are assumed to be pre-mothers, who might at any point mess up the employer's game by going off and getting pregnant and giving up work.

People (and I use people in namechange's sense here) only want to think it's babies that stop women being equal because it's much simpler than admitting it's misogyny.

ChicMama25 Fri 16-Nov-12 20:27:53

I read this a while ago, def got the impression she is young and desperately trying to justify things to appease the patriarchy
FFS get a grip girl. You're letting us all down. I'm disappointed.

LRDtheFeministDragon Fri 16-Nov-12 20:28:25

Oh, plus, women like fastidia print off lengthy feminist documents at work, thereby draining resources and productivity and prestige by an amount almost comparable to, say, Deepwater Horizon for BP ... naturally this accounts for why feminism sucks.

ChicMama25 Fri 16-Nov-12 20:30:20

The author is about as much of a feminist as Louise Mensch is

FastidiaBlueberry Fri 16-Nov-12 20:41:59



I overthrow capitalism, cause lesbianism and kill children as well.


Oh and practice witchcraft.

<Racks brains for other crimes feminism is responsible for according to Rush Limbaugh>

LRDtheFeministDragon Fri 16-Nov-12 20:49:46

I wish we practiced witchcraft. It'd be something to chat about at RTN, and nice and colourful too.

I'm not quite up to the overthrowing capitalism/causing lesbiansim bit myself, though - give me time and a thick book of Dworkin's writings ...

UptoapointLordCopper Fri 16-Nov-12 21:07:55

The gender schema thing is interesting. I haven't read it very carefully, but it articulates why certain things happen and why certain things make one uncomfortable. It's such a relief to know that one is not a nutter.

doyouwantfrieswiththat Fri 16-Nov-12 22:25:48

Fascinating and validating stuff LordCopper, thanks for the link. Perhaps it explains why I find watching woman comedians uncomfortable. I'm so disappointed when they aren't funny whereas I couldn't care less if a man wasn't funny.

summerflower Sat 17-Nov-12 13:24:55

LordCopper, I have been reading your links from your post last night at 8pm, really interesting, thank you.

What is the full reference for the second quote? The link gave me a pdf of a book chapter and I'm really interested in the whole book. I totally identify with some of the issues in the chapter and would like to read more.

UptoapointLordCopper Sat 17-Nov-12 15:34:08

Why So Slow? by Virginia Valian. I haven't read the book either, but first chapter is very interesting!

Monkeytrewsers Sat 17-Nov-12 15:37:52

What does the word 'feminist' mean in a world of feminisms?

summerflower Sat 17-Nov-12 15:48:07

Thanks, LordCopper, I have just ordered it!!

Monkeytrewsers, there is a quote I like in a book by Ingrid Whelehan, which goes along the lines of:

"All feminist positions are founded upon the belief that women suffer from systematic social injustices because of their sex, and therefore any feminism is, at the very minimum, committed to some form of reappraisal of the position of women in society"

So, I would suggest, drawing on that, that a feminist is someone who is committed to reappraising the position of women in society, granted this can take many forms - although I would also suggest that some kind of action to improve the position of women in society is also desirable, that can take place at any level from the home to government.

summerflower Sat 17-Nov-12 15:49:04

>that can take place at any level from the home to government<

also at an international level...

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