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Girls/Lads Nights

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theodorakis · 26/06/2012 14:08

I live in the ME, not sure if that is relevant as this about Western people. Anyway, there seems to be an increasing trend for the girls night in where the partners are invited to a lad's night. I object on the following grounds:

Most of the WOMEN are in their 40s so not strictly girls and it feels a bit "cutesy" Especially as they usually have a mani/pedi lady come and they drink wine and talk about Orlando Bloom or Grant Mitchell.

Most of the men are married or in a relationship with or without kids and don't really want to be laddish except they think they have to.

ALL of the people involved are adult humans and I find the prescriptive segretaion a bit claustrophobic.

I do not mind in any way doing things in a mixed group or with only my own gender but I have attended a few of these and found them boring, silly and most of the women play up to the cutesy aspect and make me annoyed.

Maybe I am a miserable old git.

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namechangeguy · 26/06/2012 14:11

What are the rules in the country where you live? Are large gatherings of single men and women allowed? I understood that in certain parts of the region you had to be married or related? Is this a case of people adapting to cultural norms?

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theodorakis · 26/06/2012 15:22

No, not at all. It is mainly the Australians and South Africans that do this. With the Qatari friends, we tend to socialise together. We do have some friends who are very religious who separate but that is the old fashioned Islamic way and generally now at weddings only. Generally this is a British and SA/Aussie thing.

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theodorakis · 26/06/2012 15:23

There are no rules, it is like living in Bournemouth in many ways (we even have a Matalan opening soon)

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Himalaya · 26/06/2012 22:50

Thedorakis -

Do you think it could be related to there being a relatively small pool of expats who socialise together - so it's not an organic group of friends but rsndomn people thrown together?

E.g. I love having a girls night with my girl friends, but going for a PTA mums night with rsndomn group of women who happen to have kids in the same school can be a bit depressing - for the same reason you state.