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keeping my surname - miss, ms or mrs?

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peaky123 Sat 17-Sep-11 22:11:48

Im getting married next week, and have decided to keep my surname. Our son has both of our surnames.
The thing is, I would like to know what others who have kept their maiden names do about their title? Miss, with the obvious unmarried connotations, Ms which is neutral but most people think means divorced, or Mrs? I have no idea.

msrisotto Sat 17-Sep-11 22:14:32

I'm a ms. it just feels right for me.

peaky123 Sat 17-Sep-11 22:19:55

I have already ticked a few 'ms' boxes, but wasnt really sure what most people thought it meant. Just wikipediaed it, pretty interesting stuff actually.

RebelFromTheWaistDown Sat 17-Sep-11 22:46:04

Ms. - which means mind your own business and nothing more!

KRITIQ Sat 17-Sep-11 22:46:47

If asked, I say I don't use a title. If I have no choice (i.e. mandatory field on a website form), I click Ms.

slartybartfast Sat 17-Sep-11 22:49:10

i was a ms but didnt really like it. sounds a bit bolshy.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes Sat 17-Sep-11 22:58:54

Ms, to me Miss means single and I hate Mrs. If I had to choose between Miss and Mrs on a form I would probably put Miss, I still have Miss on old credit cards etc.

skrumle Sun 18-Sep-11 00:52:52

ms for me (before i got married as well)

LeBOF Sun 18-Sep-11 00:57:40


Miss is unmarried, and Mrs means you are your mum confused

veryconfusedatthemoment Sun 18-Sep-11 01:02:44

Ms without a doubt!

Valpollicella Sun 18-Sep-11 01:08:05

Ms. No one else needs to know from your name - be a Miss or a Mrs (iyswim) without your marital status preceding you.

LaBag Sun 18-Sep-11 01:13:58

Ms for me too. Has been since I was about 20. I'm not a "feminist" either.

CadburyFan Sun 18-Sep-11 02:10:21

I just use my name, and on forms I leave the space blank when I can, but if forced to put down something I'm glad I'm able to use Dr.
Some people have fun and use something like Prof / Rev / Dame in the spirit of "why does it matter anyway?"

shreddedandnotatallsmug Sun 18-Sep-11 02:48:11

I'm a Ms.

When I get called Mrs DH's surname (e.g. by teachers at DC's school) I ask them to call me by my first name.

SweetTheSting Sun 18-Sep-11 08:57:41

Ms for me. I have used it for 15-odd years and I'd never heard it was linked with divorce before I came on MN. I certainly wouldn't think that about any Ms I met.

bucaneve Sun 18-Sep-11 09:20:19

Ooh be Ms. definitely,

I put it on loads of stuff (Apart from some stuff where I'm Miss and am too lazy to ring them up and change it) and no one thinks I'm divorced. Plus, I find that its almost become the default for when you don't know someone- I have lots of junk mail to Ms.Bucaneve.

going Sun 18-Sep-11 09:21:23

Ms. Miss doesn't seem right now I'm married, but I'm not Mrs my mum!

TeddyBare Sun 18-Sep-11 09:24:31

Ms. I would never be Mrs my name because it would sound like I had become my mother. I didn't want to be Miss either because in my mind Miss is for people much younger than me (yes I know that's illogical and wrong).

ladyintheradiator Sun 18-Sep-11 09:31:32

Can I hijack for some opinions on this? What if you dislike your own name because of it's origins, but don't partic want to be Mrs H-to-be's-name? Ms H-to-be's-name? I think Mrs H is his mum iyswim. Maybe I should keep my own regardless of origins? It's mine now?

Sorry - to answer OP I would go with Ms in your shoes.

Bunbaker Sun 18-Sep-11 09:32:22

Now, I don't think Mrs sounds old at all, but that is perhaps because I am old grin, or at least older than most of you.

Anyway, back to the OP - I would go for Ms.

Yama Sun 18-Sep-11 09:37:59

I am Ms.

When there isn't an option for Ms I choose Miss.

I don't think I could ever identify with Mrs. Too respectable.

Yama Sun 18-Sep-11 09:39:18

Lady - I think I would still keep my own name in that instance.

celadon Sun 18-Sep-11 10:42:23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

celadon Sun 18-Sep-11 10:43:24

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AndiMac Sun 18-Sep-11 10:56:46

I'm a Ms as well. I don't panic if people call me Mrs. but when asked for a title, I give Ms. Don't care if people think I'm divorced, I know I'm not, that's what matters.

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