Sorry, I have posted about this before so fair warning, you may have seen it before and it may be boring.
I am a student and work at home, because that is where all my books and my internet connection are. DH works outside the home 9-5. Our place is very, very small and there is only room for one desk. It's his. It has his computer on it. I have done my MA and two years of my PhD on a netbook, on my lap. My back is now almost always painful and my supervisor is fed up with the limited formatting capabilities of said netbook - and I'm fed up with not being able to see more than a tiny screen and having nowhere to spread my books where they won't need moving come five o'clock.
I have a good, basic desktop computer sitting unused at my parents' house, because we didn't have room for both, and he insisted he needed his more. For playing games on. He said I'd be able to use it too. However, IMO it is set up in quite a complicated, non-intuitive way, and is very different from my old computer. It takes me hours to find out how to do simple word processing. I'm not espcially computer literate, and I am dyslexic, which makes it very hard for me to remember sequences of steps and to process visual information. He seems unable to anticipate problems - every time I can't work something out, he is surprised again and insists on telling me at length that it is just a normal thing, or that he could not have expected the problem. This may be true, but initially he had the computer set up in Russian (which I don't speak), and didn't anticipate that being a problem either! One way and another I've lost a lot of work that hasn't saved properly.
I got to the end of my tether and asked my mum to bring down my old computer so I can get some work done. I told him I thought it was my turn to use the desk space. He is now saying he will sort it out by finding space for both computers. There isn't space. What he means is, he will put my computer so every morning I will need to move his out of the way in order to use mine, and can't leave books or papers on the desk after 5pm. So he can play on his computer.
I get that he needs time to relax, I do. But I am just so utterly fed up with this situation and he cannot see that it is not fair on me that I don't have a work space that I can use. I have explained and explained, and said could he not play different games on his laptop, but he thinks it is totally unfair. I don't know what to do.
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