I've had quite an infuriating conversation with my brother. He's 30, and is trying to set up his own business. IT's gone on for years - one scheme after another. He is being totally supported financially by my retired mother, who won't ask him to go get a normal job like anyone else. I work 3 days a week - it was a very deliberate choice to keep up my career and have time with my small children.
My brother now says that as I am "just working part time" I could work for him unpaid 2 days a week. He had even persuaded my mother, who retired from a professional well paid job, to come look after my children those two days.
I am fuming. I said no, as politely as possible, but neither my mum or my brother seem to understand that
a) I don't provide my labour free for anyone. I spent years building up a professional reputation enabling me to charge what I do and I'm not losing that.
b) my mother is doing enough for him, and for me - she has my kids for the odd weekend and in the holidays, at times that suits us all. SHe should not be expected to provide childcare as well as financial support for him to carry on trying to make an idea work. NEver mind she would then have to live with us half the week.
I come from a family of professional women and we are STILL being expected to subsidise men's ambitions with our labour.
Just wanted to rant really.
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family expecting their women to work for free - how to make my brother see this is unfair?
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oranges · 01/09/2011 14:25
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