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Never mind 'mumsnet made me do it' - what did the mumsnet feminists make you do?

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StayFrosty Wed 17-Aug-11 18:45:53

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MaxSchreck Wed 17-Aug-11 18:48:28

Made me question so much.

I already considered myself a feminist, come from a long line of...erm...strong women, but yeah, questioning is good.

Btw, I am sure your banner was the best there.

AyeRobot Wed 17-Aug-11 18:50:54

Break out of default feminism.

Get really angry.

Laugh loads.


DontCallMeFrothyDragon Wed 17-Aug-11 18:55:45

Laugh, cry, go out and buy living dolls, get even angrier about the legal system regarding rape, write a 600 word rant on the tropes used in Fight Club and Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind on a 2,500 word essay about postmodernism... I haven't even started on Brazil and Being John Malkovich yet... grin

LeninGrad Wed 17-Aug-11 18:56:29

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StayFrosty Wed 17-Aug-11 18:59:37

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Snuppeline Wed 17-Aug-11 19:02:08

The most mnfems thing I think I do is to continuously ensure that the household chores are shared equally between dp and I. That goes for childcare too (such as taking days off work for sick child etc). We organised a flexible maternity (parential!) leave between us when dd was an infant so that he was at home with our dd two days a week while I went to uni to study.

My dp, a lovely man, in a previous relationship did zilch and have said he would have carried on like that if I hadn't ensured that we naturally share tasks as equally as possible. Going out to work I think has been key in setting the scene for equality at home I think as if I compare my situation with SAHM friends their hubbies do hardly anything - even at weekends.

I firmly believe equality starts in the home as if girls and boys grow up seeing their parents in an equal partnership they will carry this on and when they are the leaders of their time they will carry these values into the workplace and society broadly and et voila society will change. It may not be much but its my contribution to the fight my foremothers started.

lubeybooby Wed 17-Aug-11 19:03:42

Made me think a lot.

Bought The Equality Illusion (need to buy again as ex got custody of the kindle before I had a chance to read it)

Tortington Wed 17-Aug-11 19:04:09

blow a fucking gasket

BeerTricksPotter Wed 17-Aug-11 19:04:27

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TheMitfordsMaid Wed 17-Aug-11 19:07:24

I've set up a local discussion group for women. I wouldn't have done that without this section, although I rarely contribute, I'm here reading.

justforaminute Wed 17-Aug-11 19:10:06

hmmmmm-id better not tell all!!
be in touch with some really really nice women
give me the courage to [its ongoing still]set up a single parents group
make me get back up when i fall
believe in myself-for the first time ever[this is probably why i cant stop talking about myself]
make me stronger in my fights
i have plans and strategys[nearly there]
ill be attending some things.
im in touch with some very marginilised women-and trying to help.
my writings got a bit better[i think]and i know some bigger words.
mnfems has helped me understand women that are not on the same path as me-and made me realise its not them im fighting.
made me think.
gave me a voice[mnhq now dislike you-as i often get my own posts deleted-and i write a lot of posts-i now feel like i should invite hq to xmas dinner]

thankyou everyone


BitterAndTwistedChoreDodger Wed 17-Aug-11 19:12:22

Buy the Equality illusion and Delusions of gender.


Lurk a lot.

AnyFucker Wed 17-Aug-11 19:13:36

They made me cultivate my single nipple hair

HerdOfTinyElephants Wed 17-Aug-11 19:13:52

I have a Bechdel Test-related rant at DH after most films...

kickassangel Wed 17-Aug-11 19:44:16

totally agree about watching movies - nearly threw up with disgust after watching the Smurfs.

AnyFucker Wed 17-Aug-11 19:50:50

They made me realise that despite everyone around me thinking it's great, that The Hangover is the worst film of all time

DandyGilver Wed 17-Aug-11 19:56:34

Bechdel Test every movie I watch.

Keep a beady eye on any backsliding on shitwork by DP.

AliceTwirled Wed 17-Aug-11 19:59:40

Made me really fucking think. Like really think. I do a lot of thinking in general but the amount this place makes me think so much.

Helped me make sense of the the 'but hang on' moments I was having with less thoughtful and aware feminism.

Go to million women rise

Spend waaay too much time on my computer.

VictorGollancz Wed 17-Aug-11 20:04:45

To leave my husband, kill my children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism and become a lesbian.

I might have done it wrong grin. But that is a paraphrase of an actual quotation from dear dear Pat Robertson...

DandyGilver Wed 17-Aug-11 20:13:20

Respect Victor. You've been busy. Just as well you weren't bogged down with wife work grin

AyeRobot Wed 17-Aug-11 20:21:37

'spect, Victor. At last, a model for doing feminism right.

Did you do it backwards and in high heels as cover?

HandDivedScallopsrgreat Wed 17-Aug-11 20:24:40

grin @ Custardo/AF/Victor. I think we've all blown a gasket on here before now Custardo!

Went to MWR.
Read quite a few feminist books (which I hadn't before).
Yy to Bechdel Test everything I watch or read even!
Try and look at the world through a feminist lens
Change charities that I support.
A lot more armchair activism such as writing to MP/council complaints etc.
And most of all think!

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows Wed 17-Aug-11 20:25:05

They made me unhide the feminism board by being so bloody nice and reasonable on a different thread. Sneaky fuckers, feminists.

VictorGollancz Wed 17-Aug-11 20:32:35

grin Robertson calls feminism socialist AND anti-family, as well as all that stuff above, so we can all find a way to piss him off.

I do love this board: first off, after lurking for about a year, the MN feminists made me join! And were uncompromising and challenging and steadfast in their beliefs, all at once. And they provided a home and a debating space for (mostly) UK feminists.

And now they've all namechanged so I have no bleedin' idea who most of them are. So they're keeping the ol'grey matter ticking over nicely.

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