Inspired by some of the threads recently about being harassed in public, I thought it might be interesting to discuss practical ways in which we can tackle it.
Of course, we shouldn't have to 'tackle' situations where we feel uncomfortable, and unfortunately whether we respond or not has to be governed by a judgement as to whether it is physically safe to do so, but discussing and rehearsing a few snappy responses may mean that we are more confident in how we handle unpleasant situations.
What are the best ways to deal with harassment in public? Is it better to respond or ignore it? If a response is called for, how can we best respond without descending to the harasser's level of rudeness? What are the responses least likely to create an escalation of the situation?
A few examples I have thought of:
In response to a drawled "Alright darling?" in the street- "Don't call me darling, it is patronising, sexist and rude".
As a quick response to a lewd comment shouted at you by a man driving past "Pervert!".
In response to being groped in a club/bar/packed train - grab the hand, hold it up high and say in a loud voice "Take your hand off my bum/tit/waist".
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Thistledew · 04/08/2011 11:37
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