About to give birth to my first, a baby girl (hopefully tomorrow!).
Ex was an unregistered sperm donor (some of you may be familiar with my story from other posts) but we stupidly tried to have a relationship for around 6 months. As soon as he found out it was a girl he left, literally the next day.
Since then he has told me on numerous occasions about visiting strip clubs with work. He's even boasted that he is seen as a wild card at work and so gets given all of the "difficult" clients needing such extra curricular activities . He's admitted to more than private dances since we've known each other and whilst I was pg, paying for private dances and more for colleagues (one of which he did because he didn't like the guy's fiancee - they broke up afterwards and the guy apparently told my ex "I had no idea women came like that!" after said EXTRA private dance in LA. No idea what kind of "came" was meant but fear the worst :( ) He really does corrupt everyone with this. Plus he mentioned having a "very thorough" thai massage on his latest trip to India...and I think I strongly suspect what that would involve. He seems to think BJ's carry less risk of STI's :(
Then came the bombshell. His dad moved to Vietnam recently after multiple marriages and girlfriends. For some reason his latest g.f wasn't there when he moved and was following on later - death in her family I think. He hooked up with 2 gay guys, did heroin and can't remember much of a whole week after his arrival there. I was quite appalled at how he is trying to relive his teens in such an irresponsible way but ex found it amusing. Next ex boasts he got a message from him (his dad) saying he had just had the best and cheapest BJ from a transvestite! . He told me this 4 days before I'm due to give birth to his first born daughter. Seemed to think it was funny. Then tells me his dad has been trying to get him to go over to see him but because I'm giving birth he's had to decline. Oh poooooor him! I can only imagine what they were hoping to get up to together.
I am thoroughly disgusted and really can't see myself wanting this guy anywhere near my daughter, let alone his father. I don't want to come across as an uptight puritan either so how do I explain his behaviour and his fathers is unreasonable and disrespectful in a way that might get through to him? Any stats out there I can throw at him? He's meant to be at the birth but i'm so angry at him I'm now tempted not to tell him when I go into labour...
Phew, sorry for the long rant. I've been up since 4:30am thinking about it all and needed to get it out.
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So angry with ex boasting about his exploits and his dad's
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Orbinator · 14/07/2011 12:14
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