If you think judging women on appearance/sexual attractiveness etc is OK, then fine. As long as you realise there are winners and losers in the competition which inevitably results and the winners actually feel worse/have lower self esteem as well as the losers because we all feel the pressure and self consciousness. Just because women treat women like shit in the same way men do, doesn't make it progressive.
Yes, the Candy Bar is definitely real - I've been there (not on poledancing night though!)
Not really sure about the women stripping for women thing. It still feels a bit like internalised 'lads mag' culture to me. I don't think that the fact that it's women perving over women makes it any less exploitative. It still encourages the objectification of women. Do the pole dancers only dance at gay nights or are they still working in straight strip clubs the rest of the time?
Actually, no, I don't think gay women are 'just as likely to conform' to our misogynistic society. A lot of the gay women I know challenge it, maybe it's a lifetime of challenging norms about women's sexuality/roles etc that's politicised them. Or maybe I'm talking through my arse with this anecdata nonsense again.
Oh, I saw that advertised in a tube station. HUGE black poster (the kind they put opposite the platform), with LESBIANS in 3-foot-high hot pink letters. The bit about Candy Bar was in very small print at the bottom of the ad.
Nope, not going for the let's-gape-at-lesbians crowd at all.