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to wonder why I am so bloody UN-feminist??!!

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NunSoQueer Wed 29-Jun-11 23:17:08

I cannot wait to give up my high-flying city career to be a SAHM

I changed my name when I got married inc my professional name

I think women should really be at home and look after their children

I think there are lots of jobs women should not/can not do e.g. fireman

I envy "kept" women

I am pro-life

Why should women be paid the same if they have had time off to have children and therefore have less experience???

How??!! Why??!! Where do these (very unpopular) views come from? I had a very working class up-bringing, did well, got a great job. Mum was a SAHM - maybe this is the reason?? Waits on my dad hand and foot.

Oddly, only thing that angers me on this subject is stripping/lapdancing - hugely ANTI all of that.

Someone come and drag me into the 21st century....

IWannaGetFiscal Wed 29-Jun-11 23:18:03

Not sure that makes you UN feminist. Are you not making your own informed choices about your decisions?

IWannaGetFiscal Wed 29-Jun-11 23:18:53

Oh I think I have just given a serious response to what I now think may not be a serious thread. Ah well. Can I have a biscuit?

NunSoQueer Wed 29-Jun-11 23:19:52

No no I am serious! I promise.

Mare11bp Wed 29-Jun-11 23:20:52

I don't agree with many of your views, but I don't think YABU.

You just make choices in life, based on your own knowledge experience and ultimately what is best for your family and kids.

For that reason, YADNBU.

Now get back to your WI meeting grin.

LaurieFairyCake Wed 29-Jun-11 23:21:22

What strikes me from your post OP is how unhappy you are with your current life. Your thoughts are all about some random time in the future.

If you have such a 'great' job why are you so unfulfilled?

What else do you have NOW, not some future time.

NunSoQueer Wed 29-Jun-11 23:21:45


IWannaGetFiscal Wed 29-Jun-11 23:21:58

I agree with some of what you have said and disagree with the rest. You are entitled to your own views however, be prepared to be told that you are NOT entitled to your own views.

tethersend Wed 29-Jun-11 23:22:17

Why not post this on the feminism topic?

You will get some good responses to your points over there.

Not like the drivel I'm spouting at the moment grin

NunSoQueer Wed 29-Jun-11 23:22:47

It's great in that I earn an awful lot of money for relatively little work. I do love my job. I just love my son more!!!

CogitoErgoSometimes Wed 29-Jun-11 23:23:00

You don't need dragging. But you definitely need to try it out for yourself and discover if the grass is or is not greener on the Stepford Wife side of the fence. There were good reasons why Valium was known as 'mother's little helper'.... and why so many women fought to escape the 'Golden Cage' smile

LaurieFairyCake Wed 29-Jun-11 23:23:49

In general I find that people talk about idealistic, Rose tinted futures.

All to distract them from how unfulfilled they are now.

NunSoQueer Wed 29-Jun-11 23:23:56

Oh yes I should've put this in feminism shouldnt I blush

flamegirl77 Wed 29-Jun-11 23:26:01

Feminism and its precursors have enabled women to enjoy basic rights we take for granted and which many women don't have e.g. the right to own property, power over our own bodies, equal pay for equal work, and many others. Unless you fancy going back to the nineteenth century and renouncing all these rights and others I question whether you are actually 'anti - feminist'.

IWannaGetFiscal Wed 29-Jun-11 23:26:11

Oh post where you bloody want, am sick of the self appointed PCSOs of the AIBU forum. Don't open the frikkin thread if you don't want to respond to it with any degree of intelligence.

LaurieFairyCake Wed 29-Jun-11 23:27:08


Well then for you it's about wanting to be home with your son - in order to 'justify' it (and you don't have to) your making up reasons to.

NunSoQueer Wed 29-Jun-11 23:27:55

How do you mean Laurie? When you say "making up reasons"?

MissVerinder Wed 29-Jun-11 23:29:16

What flamegirl said.

wrongdecade Wed 29-Jun-11 23:29:56


tethersend Wed 29-Jun-11 23:30:19

But in a way OP, you are espousing a feminist viewpoint in that you are questioning the low status child-rearing has in society. it's just muddled up with other stuff.

You are a feminist. I can feel it in my womb waters. You just don't know it yet grin

NunSoQueer Wed 29-Jun-11 23:32:19

I see what you mean "tethersend".

It's odd really. I got very very angry with the way I was treated at work when I got pregnant. I get angry when I think about lapdancing etc.

But I think all of the things I said in my op.

Goddamit I'm confused!!!!

NunSoQueer Wed 29-Jun-11 23:33:57

Views which clearly are outdated as evidenced by people thinking my post is a joke!!!!!

tethersend Wed 29-Jun-11 23:34:28

Seriously, repost this in feminism.

MsTeak Wed 29-Jun-11 23:35:00

the problem isn't in the choices you make for yourslef, its why you want opinions on what other women do.
You want to be a SAHm to your kid, good for you. Why feel the need to pronounce on whether I should be though? hmm

NunSoQueer Wed 29-Jun-11 23:37:41

Well quite "MsTeak"! That's precisely my question....! Why do I feel the need to pronounce it?

It may also surprise you if I said I was aged 25?

ps - ive asked of this thread to be moved

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