My work colleague told me this story today. She was both upset and angry. She had been quite frightened by it on the night. I felt very disturbed just hearing about it as it illustrates a male sense of entitlement to female bodies which is quite breathtakingly arrogant and alarming.
My colleague and three other colleagues went out in our safe and popular city centre last weekend. They went to a cocktail bar and were consuming mostly non-alcholic cocktails as nearkly all were driving. They are all very attractive women. Three in their mid thirties and one in her mid twenties. They are all in relationships.They noticed that a man who was alone sitting at the bar seemed to be staring at them but they didn't acknowledge him in anyway. One of my colleagues thought he might have been winking at them. Towards the end of the evening he came over to them and send to my youngest colleague 'Are you coming then love?' holding out his hand to her. Obviously she firmly declined his offer and after a pause he left. No apology, no hint of embarassment. There was something about his manner which frankly scared them. They were all parked in well lit, well frequented areas and would normally have seperated and walked back to their cars alone. Instead they toured the city en masse. I am apalled by this. I know it's only a small incident - but wtf? Did this ape seriously think women are so available for sex that having not spoken to a woman, knowing nothing about her or her knowing nothing about you, when she is plainly out with friends having a good time, you can still walk up to her and demand her company in the confident expectation that she will slip off her bar stool and go anywhere with you? and <<<eeeek>>> emoticon.