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Pissed off with people infantilising men on facebook.

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BertieBotts Tue 21-Jun-11 20:04:32

Yes, well done, your husband made the dinner. He's clearly a superior human being who no man could ever live up to.

Gets on my fucking tits. I bet the husband in question isn't updating his facebook status to say that his wife is wonderful because she cleaned the toilet. He probably didn't even notice.

ilovedora27 Tue 21-Jun-11 20:07:19

I am such a slack wife my husband put one on fb when I first cooked him a meal we had been married for 4 years at the time, and he was proud of me and also it was a bit of a pisstake. Depends if it is a complete shock that they have done it, its probably a bit of a joke.

DrGruntFotter Tue 21-Jun-11 20:11:31

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QueenOfFeckingEverything Tue 21-Jun-11 20:12:14

Ugh. I agree. I have a cousin who posts this sort of thing and it is just ugh. 'XXX really loves her XXX who cooked dinner AND let her have a bath this evening' [vom] followed by equally vom inducing comments from her other friends like 'awwwwww' and 'lucky you hun'.

DP makes the dinner on his dinner night as does every other adult we live with. Its not fucking medal material is it.

Men who do the 'oh look aren't I wonderful I used a weeks worth of ingredients and made dinner' annoy me anyway. Its fucking showboating IMO.

BertieBotts Tue 21-Jun-11 20:22:07

True, Dora. I posted about DS sleeping through the night last night because he's 2.8 and it's only the second time he's ever done it grin which I'm sure some people were completely scandalised at wondering why I hadn't taught him to earlier.

I think in the majority of cases it does come across that this is a big thing for men in general though, not a personal joke between them.

Hmm. On the one hand ISWYM on the other hand it's not necessarily any more sexist than people posting ' [me] just ate a ham sandwich and had a dump' - I know a couple (both FB friends of mine) who post quite often about who cooked dinner and what it consisted of.

StewieGriffinsMom Wed 22-Jun-11 07:12:52

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celadon Wed 22-Jun-11 08:36:13

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WinkySlink Wed 22-Jun-11 08:45:25

Its an advertising staple as well, OP...look, hubby made the dinner, he might get sex tonight/watch the football/ go to the pub (but SILLY MAN, he used all the pans/made a mess/cooked the dog, oh what a silly man...bet he doesnt know where the washing up liquid is kept, the silly man!)

TeiTetua Wed 22-Jun-11 14:00:16

Part of this could be the desperate need to find something to say on Facebook, and thus keep your identity as an interesting person in front of all your "friends".

happytourer Wed 22-Jun-11 14:17:14

Which all raises the question, why do so many women treat men as being less equal? Why do men put up with it? How do they fight the matriarchy?

slug Wed 22-Jun-11 15:15:39

Because the infantalising suits men. They do it all the time to avoid having to take responsibility for their actions.

"But I don't do the dishes as well as you"
"I don't know how to turn on the washing machine"
"I earn the money, it's mine"
"I couldn't help it, she was wearing a short skirt/her face was unveiled/she was too drunk to say no"

TrilllianAstra Wed 22-Jun-11 15:28:13

let her have a bath? hmm

Are baths usually forbidden?

alto2 Wed 22-Jun-11 15:31:52

Cooked the dog? Haven't heard that one before

happytourer Wed 22-Jun-11 16:21:29

Only speaking from my personal experience, it's more often women who think their men can't cook, etc, (and seem quite happy for them to do so, though I often wonder why the men stay with such women) rather than men pretending they can't.

wicketkeeper Sun 03-Jul-11 21:55:58

Yes and oh yay, at last. If we want to have equality, we have to treat men as equals.

berkshirefem Mon 04-Jul-11 12:53:55

I've seen 'Hubby is so great, he watched the kids for me while i had a lovely long soak in the tub' err... which kids? the ones you made together you mean? confused

berkshirefem Mon 04-Jul-11 12:56:18

I've also seen "hubby did the washing today, what a treat, didn't know he knew how to turn on the machine!" Queue, much tittering, liking, and words of solidarity from other women on facebook whose husbands didn't know how to turn on the washing machine.

It's incredible that amoungst them were engineers, coputer programmers, lecturers and even a PLUMMER...! Yet none of them can turn on a simple kitchen appliance. Vomit.

TheMagnificentBathykolpian Mon 04-Jul-11 13:00:37

Yes.

Congratulations. He's a functioning adult.

Fuck off.

It's attitudes like that - wow, what a great guy, he washed the pots, what a star, his reward is a blow job, tee hee hoddle har hmm... that mean it's somehow normal and ok to feel that men don't or can't do normal household stuff.

Ormirian Mon 04-Jul-11 13:00:49

Men accept it because it suits them (some men not all!) and women like it because it underlines the importance of their perceived (and narrow) role in society. For women who feel comfortable with the status quo infantilising men makes them feel important - 'oh look how important we are, men can't even operate the washing machine' hmm.

WoTmania Mon 04-Jul-11 13:24:17

These annoy me too. I often find they are the type of woman (sweeping generalisation here) who will complain that feminism has made their life harder as now they not only have to do all the housework and childcare but have to work too hmm.

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