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Double barrel or not?

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kittenIOM · 02/12/2010 12:16

I have been married for a few years and I kept my maiden name.

We have just had a baby boy and he has DH?s surname, but now I am now considering double barrelling my surname with DH?s surname so I have a family connection to DH and DS and I can also still use my maiden name as and when I want to.

I was just wondering if anyone else has this done this ? how did it work for you? Did you encounter any problems?

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 02/12/2010 13:34

Yeah do it. Why not eh? :o

Oh hang on - I thought you were talking about double-barrelling the baby 's surname. That would be a good idea IMO.

Why would you want to change your name though? You've had yours for decades, the baby has had his for - what, weeks? Change his. He won't even know it's happened, and you still get your connection to your little boy :)

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mazzystartled · 02/12/2010 13:36

I'd just double barrel the baby's

Don't muck about with your own unless DH does same.

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msrisotto · 02/12/2010 18:08

I'd do it the spanish way personally and double barrel the babba's surname.

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frgr · 02/12/2010 19:32

Why not all double barrel? That's what DH and I have done :) Works fine for us.

(although, neither of us changed at all at the wedding for about 18 months, only did this once DCwas on the horizon, since i like my name, DH likes his, and they "sound" acceptable together... we agreed that if we didn't like the idea by the due date we'd flip a coin and all change to that name.. but it never got to that.)

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Bue · 02/12/2010 20:33

Change the baby's, not your own! (Another option is to add your surname as a second middle name for the baby.) Sorry, on the feminism boards you might not get a lot of support for taking your husband's name without an equal change on his part

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kittenIOM · 03/12/2010 20:44

Thanks - it's good to get hear your views. All my female friends/family have taken DH's surname so don't understand me keeping my own surname. :)

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groak · 03/12/2010 20:49

Change your babys name! We had a boy at school who had a d-b surname, and his nickname was... shotgun!! I mean, how cool is that????

(apologises for utter lack of seriousness and helpfulness of post )