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ToFleaOrNotToFlea Sun 12-Jul-15 22:25:09

I am excited that I may have a potential job offer (been approached) on a good salary, car and promotion. However, I currently work part time and the new job would be 4 days in the office and one day at home. The commute would be long so i would have to leave early and put my son into breakfast club from 7am. He is only 4.

This, coupled with the fact that i would not be around for DS as much as I am now is putting me off accepting it. Otherwise, I am excited for the opportunity to have a proper career again and have something for myself.

Should I go for it? Or would DS suffer?

ToFleaOrNotToFlea Mon 13-Jul-15 07:01:44


Nolim Mon 13-Jul-15 07:08:19

What about after school? Fwiw many kids go to breakfast club, i dont think they "suffer."

FirstOfficerDouglasRichardson Mon 13-Jul-15 07:08:40

Only you can decide. My DS (5) goes to breakfast club every day and has lots of fun, he also goes to after school club but only for 1 day a week. It works fine for us, but if I had to send him to after school club as well as breakfast club every day I would think twice. Will you be able to drop off and pick up? What arrangements would you have in place for holidays? Do you have a supportive and hands on partner? Working is a necessary for me, for sanity as well as financially. I have to work but only if my DS is happy and doesn't suffer.

ToFleaOrNotToFlea Mon 13-Jul-15 07:11:20

My in laws would be perhaps be on hand to pick DS up from school afterwards. They may even offer to take him to school a couple of mornings a week but I don't want to rely on that as it is a huge commitment.

callamia Mon 13-Jul-15 07:14:00

Is there no hope of flexible working to avoid such an early start? Do you have a partner who can do similar? Would the wage allow you to pay someone to be at your house in the morning? Sorry for lots of questions, but I think there must be an alternative to those very early mornings.

In principle, I am all for promotions. Some just need a bit of creative thinking.

ToFleaOrNotToFlea Mon 13-Jul-15 07:22:35

Yes we could look into paying someone to take DS to school 4 mornings a week, that would be better than him starting his day at school at 7am.

I am not sure if the company would be flexible as it is a full time role, and if I was to drop DS off at school at 8.45 every day, i would not arrive at the office until 10.15 so that would not work.

MyGastIsFlabbered Mon 13-Jul-15 07:29:59

I put my son in breakfast club, he loved it, I hated it! It just felt so wrong to me to send him out in the morning without eating. However, I was in a dead end job I hated, so when DS2's nursery closed it wasn't a hard decision to leave my job and take DS1 out of breakfast club. However, a few times he's said he wishes he still went!

ToFleaOrNotToFlea Mon 13-Jul-15 07:36:15

Ha ha, it is nice to know he actually enjoyed himself though!!
Such a dilemna! I want to forward my career but feel guilty about DS!

worldsworstmum2015 Wed 15-Jul-15 22:52:32

Breakfast club at my dcs school doesn't open til 7.50....... can your dh do a couple of morning drops and the grandparents come to your house on the other days as you leave for work to get your ds up and ready for school?

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