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Would you go away without your DC on their birthday?

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Pennies Mon 07-Oct-13 19:44:18

We have been invited to a very glam and exciting sounding weekend which will be incredibly good fun. The trouble is is that it's a whole weekend away from Friday morning until Sunday evening and my DD's 8th birthday will be on the Friday. We can't celebrate it the week before or the week after due to other things already in the diary and then it's Xmas and New Year.

Would you go or not?

VBisme Mon 07-Oct-13 19:45:16

No, at 8 they won't understand that mummy and daddy have something more fun to do.

whattodoo Mon 07-Oct-13 19:46:21

I'd celebrate DD's birthday with her on the Friday. Then join the glam weekend on the Saturday.

Ragwort Mon 07-Oct-13 19:46:39

Depends grin - do you have much loved grandparents or aunts/uncles/friends that could make it a really special weekend for her?

Doinmummy Mon 07-Oct-13 19:47:50


Hooleywhipper Mon 07-Oct-13 19:48:00

No I wouldn't

Department Mon 07-Oct-13 19:48:28

I did (work) for ds2's 5th-we just moved his birthday and he was none the wiser. Doubt you could get away with that at 8 tho!

BrianTheMole Mon 07-Oct-13 19:48:56

No I don't think I would.

FlatsInDagenham Mon 07-Oct-13 19:49:02


Pennies Mon 07-Oct-13 19:49:17

Grandparents could step in but she's really going to not have much of a celebration because they're not up to hosting any kind of party or friends over.

I can't really go on the Saturday because the main event is really on the Saturday morning and I also have to fly to get there. It's a bit of an all-or-nothing thing.

cherrytomato40 Mon 07-Oct-13 19:49:52

Ooh that's tricky... we missed DD's 4th birthday as we went to a wedding, but as she was only 4 it was easy enough to 'move' her birthday to the day before and she never knew... she also had a fab weekend with her grandma!

I guess it all depends on how your DD feels about it and what she will be doing if you're not there- will she still be able to have a celebration with her friends or other family members?

Chubfuddler Mon 07-Oct-13 19:50:00

No. Never.

2kidsintow Mon 07-Oct-13 19:50:01

Nope, sorry.

Pennies Mon 07-Oct-13 19:50:16

I'm glad everyone's saying no because DH thinks I'm being a party pooper by suggesting that we need to decline.

ajandjjmum Mon 07-Oct-13 19:51:01

No I wouldn't at that age - sorry. I'm normally the first to go away without DC, but not on their birthday.

LoveSewingBee Mon 07-Oct-13 19:51:08

Of course not.

My dd's birthday is more important to me.

whattodoo Mon 07-Oct-13 19:52:21

If you can't join the weekend later, then no I wouldn't go at all.
Particularly if you've got other stuff on the weekends either side which will prevent you celebrating early/late.

NachoAddict Mon 07-Oct-13 19:54:06

No not a chance. Maybe if they were a toddler and their birthday could be moved but probably not even then.

dsd's mum did though on dsd's 4th birthday. She went to a lovely log cabin for the weekend.

mrsseed Mon 07-Oct-13 19:54:15

Ummmm we just half did that..dd1 was 8 on friday, dh went away friday lunchtime (albeit work related..but he doesnt usually work weekends).and isnt back for few more days. He saw her in morning, we did presents night before and grandparents came iver for weekend.
Not sure I would have done it for a jolly though

iwantanafternoonnap Mon 07-Oct-13 19:54:49

why can't you do it on the Thursday and get her an extra gift?

Pennies Mon 07-Oct-13 19:55:38

We would be there in the morning for prezzies but not back until early Sunday evening.

marriedinwhiteisbackz Mon 07-Oct-13 19:55:48

I don't know why you are even asking. What's more important to you; your daughter or a weekend? Only you know the answer to that.

hashtagwhatever Mon 07-Oct-13 19:56:04

no not a chance

WhereMyMilk Mon 07-Oct-13 19:56:16

No, just no.

Bowlersarm Mon 07-Oct-13 19:56:34


I love social events as well. And if she was 1/2/3 I would say go. But at 8 she'll be aware.

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