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If you were out to dinner with friends and on the wasy to the loo your 'friend' says

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AtleastbeCYBILtoeachother Wed 04-Nov-09 16:08:40

(about another friend (Jan) at the table) 'Blimey Jan has put on LOADS of weight' . This Jan friend had travelled a LONG way to see us all and we were there celebrating her birthday.


AtleastbeCYBILtoeachother Wed 04-Nov-09 16:09:03

on the WAY to the loo

eyetunes Wed 04-Nov-09 16:09:58

i would say fuck off you fat fucker

SerenityNowAKABleh Wed 04-Nov-09 16:12:02

go for a re-write of Churchill's famous saying ("in the morning, I'll be sobre but you'll still be ugly") "Well, if Jan had gained weight, she can lose it, but you've got that face/personality forever".

NowtonTelly Wed 04-Nov-09 16:12:49

I'd think that was a pretty nasty thing to say about your 'friend'.

AlaskaNebraska Wed 04-Nov-09 16:13:09

merely an obsvervation under wine imo

Hassled Wed 04-Nov-09 16:13:17

I prefer eyetunes' response but the reality is that I wold pretend I hadn't heard.

Seededbiatch Wed 04-Nov-09 16:13:31

I would probably say "Has she? I hadn't noticed"

Because I never do unless someone really has put on stones and stones or lost it otherwise a stone either way I generally don't notice.

AtleastbeCYBILtoeachother Wed 04-Nov-09 16:14:41

We were sober, had just got there. She has history of doing this, making helpful 'comments' about people. Winds me right up, and I dread to think what she says about me.

bonfirewithaheartofgold Wed 04-Nov-09 16:15:32

has jan put on loads of weight?

AtleastbeCYBILtoeachother Wed 04-Nov-09 16:15:36

Seeded I think thats what I did say.

AtleastbeCYBILtoeachother Wed 04-Nov-09 16:17:41

No, 'jan' has always been quite big and will admit it.But she is lovely, and undeserving of criticism imo. I think it was the fact that it was this other girl (bossy, controlling, shallow) that said it. .

TheCrackFox Wed 04-Nov-09 16:23:21

She sounds like a bit of a shallow twat. Unfortunately some women see maintaining a size 8 figure on par with gaining a doctorate, sailing round the world single handed, rescuing children from a burning orpahange (I am not fat BTW).

I tend to give shallow twats a miss as they suck the energy out of me.

nickytwotimes Wed 04-Nov-09 16:24:17

Doesn't sound like she is a very nice person if she doess this all the time.
I'd keep my distance. Friends are there to make you feel better, not worse!

AlaskaNebraska Wed 04-Nov-09 16:24:25

i am rather warming to her blush

Uriel Wed 04-Nov-09 16:26:38

Hmm, better or worse than calling someone bossy, controlling and shallow?

cocolepew Wed 04-Nov-09 16:28:36

shock I said this about someone today (not Jan).
It was true though.

DaisymooSteiner Wed 04-Nov-09 16:29:19

I find "goodness, I wonder what you say about me behind my back" makes the point quite well.

bibbitybobbityhat Wed 04-Nov-09 16:30:33

Wotacow! What DID you say or have I missed that?

See, now, this is why I am virtual hermit atm having put on a fair bit since giving up smoking 13 months ago - and I was quite a blimper beforehand - the thought of friends saying "Bibbity's crossed the threshold from chubby to ginormous hasn't she?" on the way to the loo.

So I stay in and MN and eat snacks. Its no good.

squeaver Wed 04-Nov-09 16:31:40

More importantly, what were you wearing Cyb?

AlaskaNebraska Wed 04-Nov-09 16:32:08

i want to marry her the pal.
cyb you were a cow.


morningpaper Wed 04-Nov-09 16:35:02

I would say 'yeah she has a bit eh?' or 'nah she looks the same to me' depending on my observations

I wouldn't think twice tbh

MadameDuBain Wed 04-Nov-09 16:40:55

Would depend on the friend and how much I liked Jan tbh! In some situations I would agree. In others I'd be defensive of Jan. Totally depends.

I have one bitchy friend who says stuff like this but I let her off, it's her personality and she makes me laugh blush and she is actually also very sweet IYSWIM. But if it was someone who I thought was a cow to start with, they'd get short shrift.

AtleastbeCYBILtoeachother Wed 04-Nov-09 16:47:48

Uriel I didn't call her bossy controlling or shallow to any of my mates at dinner, nor would I.

I KNEW someone would pick up on that one

HuwEdwards Wed 04-Nov-09 16:48:24

I would gush to Jan when she returned

"Jan, you look fabulous, dunno what's different about you but you look great"

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