Maybe you need to explain in simple language about how not everyone is Muslim and that other childern are Christians and they have Christmas like you have Eid. No need to mention the FC thing yet unless she asks then just explain it is part of some people's Christmas celebrations.
Lots of people do a 'cultural' xmas and arent christian, i think she may pick up on this
I dont mind other kids thinking she is wrong at all, just a bit concerned she may argue her point a bit (dd is always right preschool teacher asked me to tell her to call A, 'ah' as she had been correcting teachers that it was 'aay')
It is very difficult, We have never gone along with the father christmas thing and we tell our dcs that it like the tooth fairyetc, some people beleive and others don't, everybody is different and it is no reason to argue with someone because they beleive something different.
tbh it has only been an issue in the last year as dd is now 6. The younger ones accept it more readily because their world of fantasy and reality is much more blurred.
I don't think you need to lie just explain that some children believe that he brings them presents and that not everyone believes this and that you and your family don't believe it. I explained it to the children I work with and they were fine with that. We also talked about how it would be unkind to tell other children that what they believed was wrong, as everyone was different. They were 3 and 4 at the time.
Of course they believe in fiction, that is what children do. If you spoke to any of my dcs you would realise this. The point is that myself and dh will not lie. But that doesn't mean we can't enjoy a story together. Last week we all watched Nanny macphee together. They enjoyed, no questions asked. If they had asked if it was real then I would have been honest.
You can't stop a child believing but as an adult I feel I have a duty to be honest with my children. They trust me.
dd gets presents from my parents but we are very clear they are from Nana and Grandad as they are celebrating something which we dont
dd has made Eid cards this year for them but knows they doint celebrate Eid
Im not comfortable with the FC thing
I can say to dd Christians believe Jesus was born in a stable and celebrate this in the middle of winter but we as muslims believe that he was born under a date tree in the desert in Spring time but dont claim to have an exact date for it
I think SILs children are quite blunt with anyone that FC is pretend, but they are in far more mixed schools where lots of children are not celebrating and are from several different religions so i dont think they stand out, and i douybt they would make as big a deal about being RIGHT about it as dd would
So if you are a convert (and assuming your parents & siblings aren't) do your dcs not get presents from extended family at Christmas time? If they do then at least they will understand that it is a time of celebration in this country - and as many people who celebrate Christmas are no longer practising Christians it's not necessarily a "Christian" festival which you have to avoid...
Personally I would say that most cultures have celebrations in mid-winter (am I am right in thinking there is a Muslim one around then?) which originally started as a way of celebrating the fact that days would start getting longer again, etc and then became linked with religious celebrations and generally children get presents and have different stories relating to that...
Believing, entirely and completely, in the fiction of FC (with the collusion of parents and family), and working out foryourself that it is entirely improbable, is one of the very important lessons of early childhood. Don't let your children miss out!
You are not "lying" to your children if you collude in fantasy with them when they are small - you are enabling them to work out what is fact and fiction for themselves by indulging in harmless fantasy.
Children who are not helped with this at home and brought up in a totally factual environment often have a great deal of difficulty with working out the difference between more complex fact and fiction in the wider world...