A year and a half ago I had an abortion, our DD1 had trisomy 9, a really rare genetic disorder. We very painfully agreed to an abortion. I still find this decision very painful but since the birth of my DD2 I have days when I don't think about it too much. Pregnancy was hell.
Sellotaped to the lift door was a newspaper article about abortion, since it became legal in Spain and comparing it to the UK. It discussed the amount of babies that are actually alive for a few minutes after the abortion and even included a picture of an aborted baby at 10 weeks in a doctors hand. My DD1 was 23 weeks. It's the picture that is upsetting me more than anything. Should I complain to the doctors? If so what do I say? I can't believe I stood and read it while I was waiting for the lift. I didn't want to, but was strangely compelled to.
Sorry to ramble, I felt I needed to include the background.
I think it would be worth complaining to the doctors surgery, actually. It's possible that the article was taped up there by some activist loon who doesn't even work there. But even if it does reflect the beliefs of one or more of the surgery staff, it's inappropriate and upsetting to display it in the surgery. You don't need to go into your own story with them: FFS plenty of people who do not have abortion or pregnancy on their minds at the time do not actually want to look at a picture of an aborted foetus while waiting to see a doctor about their ingrown toenails, and propaganda (which this sounds like: presumably the article was from one of the right-wing papers) has no place in a surgery.
I think it's absolutely inapropriate to have such an article sellotaped up in the doctors.
I'm really sorry that this happened to you today - whether you decide to complain or not is up to you, I may be tempted not to on the basis that it would force me to spend more time thinking about this than is necassary. Maybe, for me, the answer would be to return to the doctor's to remove the article so that nobody else has to experience the upset you had today.
Unfortunately, life will always have reminders for us of the things that hurt the most. The trick is learning to move on from the setbacks and re-focus on the important things.
I don't know if this helps, I just didn't want to not acknowledge what you've said as it feels a bit close to the bone for me too.
Thanks mamibabi. i think that is what i will do. I'll go back tomorrow and tear it down, I need reminding sometimes that loads of other people have been though it too. I don't want anyone else to go though the pain too. Complaining would take time, as I need to do it in a foreign language, so would need alot of thought to get the tone right.
Thanks so much for your prompt replies! It has really helped