DH gets back from the big city after a couple of days away, in the early hours of this morning. At a little after 8am the phone rings, he answers; it's a call from my close friend to tell me her partner has died suddenly and unexpectedly. DH takes the message, leaving me asleep (no, hte phone didn't wake me up - dh gets to it v v quickly).
I wake at about 10.30; about an hour later the phone rings, I answer it. It is a mutual friend telling me my friend's partner died in the early hours of the morning. The phone ringing has woken dh and he comes down stairs in the middle of the call, saying oh yes, I was going to tell you....
Actually, I was too shocked and horrified and sad to be pissed off. I asked him to wake me if there was ever a next time and went off to find my friend.
I'm not really pissed off with him as such, it's just I know, having spent time with my friend, that she needed me then and I wasn't there for her, and that he made a call that I simply don't understand, and which worries me a bit.
I remember ringing my bf to tell her my dad had died and her dh answered the phone. I asked to speak to her but he said she was asleep and could he take a message and in my grief I told him. I guess I should have waited until my bf was available rather than letting her dh pass on the message. Anyway, she rang me back and I could tell it was a really hard call for her to make.
I wasn't pissed off with him, nor do I "have a grudge with" him. I was very puzzled, and simply didn't understand it. Still don't. I have already asked him to wake me if there's a next time (as I've said on this thread); I have also said that if I took a call from his best mate for the same thing I would have no hesitation in waking him.
He has no real idea why he didn't wake me, btw; just one of those known unknowns they used to talk about in America.