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MIL Advice please

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kite Tue 28-Jul-09 09:22:31


MIL & I do not get on very well really & over the years it is a constant undercurrent with her. She just does not like me at all now I have accepted that & I have no problem with it any longer but she is still causing a problem in my marriage to her son.

She does not want to call to see the kids when I am here on my own she wants DH to be here, he is working all week and most weekends (2 jobs) & his time is very limited at home. We have had a very rough time recently my sister died from cancer, my dad is quite ill and we also have a new baby here.DH told her some private information about what was happening here (he told her he was only telling her & it was not to go any further) - she in turn went and told all her family this information. DH was very upset that she did it but she is not a bit bothered she just said nothing about what she did and carried on regardless.

I just want to be polite and civil to her now but not really be involved with her as I have had enough hassle in my own life and I feel as she has no fondness for me there is no point anymore.

So what is the best thing to do?? Anyone got some good advice??

KIMItheThreadSlayer Tue 28-Jul-09 09:42:03

Could your DH take the children to see her for an hour once a week?

Keeps her out of your home, lets her see her son and grandchildren.
And never tell her anything about your life again.

Sorry for the loss of your sister, and hope your dad is soon on the mend

randomtask Tue 28-Jul-09 09:59:11

It sounds like you're having an awful time and your MIL is not helping.

I'd let your DH take the children to her (if he doesn't have the time, that's his problem and hers for not wanting to see you) and I would tell DH to never tell her anything private again as it's upset you and she'd used it to upset you. He needs to support you at the moment and protect you as neccesary.

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