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Frasersmum123 Sat 27-Jun-09 19:22:00

I know what your all going to say, but I just wanted some advice about how to handle the situation.

I leant a friend some money, not a massive amount, but alot to our family as we are struggling a little. I leant her £260 and then another £40.

Its been 9 weeks and although I have spoken to her and she has made promises about paying it back, I havent had it back yet, the last time was last Monday, but still nothing The thing is that I put it aside as spending money for our Holiday in July, which is why I had it spare. She seems to be avoiding me and TBH I dont really care, I really need my money back though, but I just seem to be one of these people who cannot stick up for myself.

I agreed to have her DS for the day while she goes out in a couple of weeks, and now I really dont want to, because of the way she is acting.I know she will ring me up next week to sort out the arrangements. My Best friend says I should try and keep her onside so that I have a chance of getting my money back, but I think I have already written it off. I suppose I have learnt an expensive lesson

Before this all kicked off we were really close, and she was a lovely person.

WWYD

burningupinspeed Sat 27-Jun-09 19:24:32

Does she know it was for your holiday? What did you lend it to her for?

I think you should be firm, phone her and say you were glad to help but you need it back by X date, see what she says.

But yes, I fear it may be an expensive lesson

porncocktail Sat 27-Jun-09 19:25:40

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Frasersmum123 Sat 27-Jun-09 19:27:05

I lent it to her to pay her rent, but she sais she would pay it back when she got some back pay from HB, which has been and gone, then she was getting some other money but still nothing.

She knows what it was for, I told her when I lent it why I had put it aside.

I have tried phoning and emailling but no reply.

porncocktail Sat 27-Jun-09 19:29:01

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KerryMumbles Sat 27-Jun-09 19:29:46

Is your middle name

DOORMAT?

ffs. Tell her you need the money for your holiday and can you have it now please.

If she still blows you off then you will have to get more serious.

NeedaNewName Sat 27-Jun-09 19:30:00

When she calls to arrange childcare let her know then

KerryMumbles Sat 27-Jun-09 19:30:18

Like hold her ds hostage....

[not that i would mind him in the first place when she's being such a twat]

rubyslippers Sat 27-Jun-09 19:31:52

does she live near you?

well, if so i would go round and demand your money

she is being a moo by ignoring your calls

also, there is no way i would be looking after her DS

a true friend woudln't behave like this

am sorry for you - horrid situation

Frasersmum123 Sat 27-Jun-09 19:32:28

TBH I dont really want a friend like this.

I am a Doormat

porncocktail Sat 27-Jun-09 19:33:49

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KerryMumbles Sat 27-Jun-09 19:34:24

Well

STOP IT NOW PLEASE.

Stand up for yourself.

Go over to hers. Stand there. Look her straight in the eye and tell her you need your fucking money.

please.

Frasersmum123 Sat 27-Jun-09 19:35:00

I am just not very good with confrontation and I am quite shy in RL.

Maybe I should put a message on her FB page -let everyone know our business, or threaten to tell another of her 'friends' who she reported for benefit fraud!

MarshaBrady Sat 27-Jun-09 19:35:06

Crikey, yes make sure you get the money back for your holiday. She's not a good friend at all for making you stress. Stuff that.

burningupinspeed Sat 27-Jun-09 19:46:57

IF you lived near me I'd come and do it for you. Please do as Kerry says - doormat NO MORE.

NeedaNewName Sat 27-Jun-09 19:56:56

Just tell her you need the money, no need for ocnfrontation! I never get this, its your money, you need it back - tell her!

LoveBeingAMummy Sat 27-Jun-09 22:11:38

She's doing this cause she knows yuo wont say/do anything. Whats going to happen to your holiday if you don't get it back? Why should you and your family have to suffer?

PLease say something whilst you can (hopefully) put it in a way you want to rather than it coming out all worng in the heat of the moment.

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