I don't know, I 've just had a really crap day all because some women at the mums n tots had a go at me in front of everyone and reduced me to tears. Still feel so upset even though there was a kind off apology/explanation. How do 'i stop being upset. What do you do to feel better?
I left my baby asleep int he pushchair in the doorway next to the room we were in ( a church building) She said very loudly " I think this is digusting, there is a baby asleep here" Realised she was refering to my DD so went over. Apparently it's not done to leave a child asleep because they may come to some harm. I understand that she thought it wasn't safe, but to say it was disgusting in front of the whole group. It made feel like the crappest parent ever. Later the other leader came and apologised, saying that x is feeling bad about how she handled it!! ffs . not as bad as I felt. Only stayed because DS would have been upset to leave early.
Leader said that they had a lot of vandalism and x was worried. I am also convinced she knew it was my baby as we've been going there for 6 months and xhas often cooed over DD. It just seemed such a nasty thing to do. Am feeling very delicate still.
what a horrible woman. well you must rise above it and she will feel bad next week. i'm sure it will blow over but it shouldn't stop you from going to the baby group and feeling confident.
everyone does things that makes them feel like crap mothers . my ds fell of the bed when he was 6 months right on to his head. it was terrifying. thats just one incident of many of my crap parenting skills.
oh go back, ignore her, don;t let her think she has won and you are running scared.
hold your head up high, and ignore her. don;t look at her, acknowledge her, don;t even pass her anything like coffee, sugar etc. freeze her with your magical powers, and enjoy it for the nice mums and your children.
it works well I have found
normally you will find that women like that are actually very insecure, and make themselves feel better by belittling others. don;t let her do that to you!
It must be great to be a perfect parent who is privy to all the unspoken rules before going to places like that.
Even if she thought that (and tbh a lot of people are a bit kneejerk about security with kids, as if there's ten peodophiles behind every bush- my dp has a go at me if I walk 5 feet away from ds sitting in the supermarket trolley to grab some cereal!) there are countless tactful ways to say something. I hope she felt like a gobby cow afterwards.
It's your child, your judgement call. And it was a church building, not a pub you left her outside of!
The issue was the fact that someone could harm/steal the baby. The pushchair was on one side of glass door and we were on the other side. And I know we all do stuff that is a bit crap in the pareting league, I have a list. This has really knocked me more than anything though. Usually I just think "whatever" and get on with my own thing.
ahh am now enlightened. Bottle wine, biscuit chocolate -whatever your posion. I don't see what issue is. If you could hear/see her her needs would have been met and unless you church has no grounds in the middle of a city I would probably have done the same thing. Ignore her, go have fun with your friends and if she has worried you just don't do it again. One narrow minded dogooder should not be enough to drive you away from something you and your ds enjoy and obviously you normally benefit from.
put it down to an off day and enjoy the future. The past is exactly that... the past.