My first name is Charlotte and I absolutely despise it, I have never been anywhere where there hasn't been another Charlotte, I even had to share a flat in uni with a girl who had the same first and middle name as me.
I started going by Charley but that seems to be what every Charlotte does and my family has decided to name our new dog Charlie so its kind of the final straw.
I don't want to upset my mum by changing my name so I'm considering giving myself a new middle name and asking to be known as that. But I'm worried that because my new name will be Welsh that when people find out I have an easy to pronounce first name they'll start calling me that again.
I'm going to back to uni to do my masters next year and I haven't started a career or anything so now is the time to switch names if I'm going to do it.
I think if you want to change your name, and be known by that name, then it makes sense to make it your first name, or you are just going to be forever explaining about your initials and why you use a different name. However, if you have already decided that people aren't going to be able to pronounce your new name, are you not rather jumping out of one frying pan into a fire ?
Provided you're prepared to announce the name you wish to be known by, people will go along with that. Beginnings, of a course, or a new job, is the moment. If you gain a new first name, no need to tell people what to call you. But choosing to use a middle name, also not complex. One of my DC does. Difficult name to pronounce? Just address it head on" I'm xxy, written xxy, pronounced xxy."
No one civilised is going to use your first name , if you've told them your preferred name.
I think I'm going to go with Eluned - Haf Charlotte Dutton, that way I can leave Charlotte out if I want to. My family are already starting to take the mick out of me (not in a mean way) but I expected that.
Haf always sounds better as a middle name I think but I could nickname myself Haf or even shorten Eluned to Ellen. I've never met an Ellen so I'd be happy with that too