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New neighbour opposite keeping blinds open

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VioletBow Sun 11-Mar-18 18:06:45

And I can clearly see from my bedroom she is camming!
As in she is a cam girl.

My house sits about 5 foot higher than the houses opposite mine so my living room window is between her living room and bedroom, and my bedroom window is therefore higher than hers and I can see right in.

A couple of women moved in a few weeks back and are renting the house.

Each to their own but I have a 3yr old DD who could quite easily walk into my bedroom and see what she is doing.

I'm friendly with her next door neighbour and she has just informed me when they moved in they told her that they worked from home in social media marketing hmm

I suppose I'm asking what would you do? I'm not confrontational at all so I can't see myself going over and knocking asking them to shut the blinds, especially as I would have to bring my daughter with me 😂

Allthebestnamesareused Sun 11-Mar-18 20:57:20

Shut your own curtains

lollipopjones Sun 11-Mar-18 21:35:11

Could you put a note through their door? Maybe she doesn’t realise anyone can see in.

WellThisIsShit Tue 13-Mar-18 05:35:04

Put a polite note through the door?

LolitaLempicka Tue 13-Mar-18 05:36:37

Um, stop looking? —pervert—

LolitaLempicka Tue 13-Mar-18 05:37:38

That was meant to have a 😂
I guess just close your curtains and hope she moves?

AlonsoTigerHeart Tue 13-Mar-18 05:38:28

Stop gawking at her.

Bluntness100 Tue 13-Mar-18 06:01:19

Huge lol at the stop looking gang. The vast majority of people would not be able to not look. Nothing Pervy about it, it's not like she's getting off on it. And what because of her neighbours activities she should always keep her curtains shut.

Yeah, cos that's what they'd do, just not look if their neighbour was getting jiggy in front of a web cam. 🤣

Psychobabble123 Tue 13-Mar-18 06:06:41

Teach DD nice and early that its impolite to look through others windows and ignore it. They are perfectly entitled to do what they like in their own home, just as you are in yours. Your DD is too young to understand whata going on but if it bothers you that much, close the curtains when she is in your room.

Out of interest, how much time do the two of you spend looking out of the window?! Because we really don't, so struggling to see why this is even an issue to be honest confused

blueskyinmarch Tue 13-Mar-18 06:28:17

MN is so bloody weird about this issue. As in making out that is is unusual behaviour to look out of your own windows and be a bit perturbed by some of the behaviours you might see whilst doing so. Why should OP keep her curtains closed?

OP i suspect she doesn't realise you can see in her window. A polite note through the door would be the way forward.

pawpatrolearworm Tue 13-Mar-18 10:24:49

N is so bloody weird about this issue. As in making out that is is unusual behaviour to look out of your own windows and be a bit perturbed by some of the behaviours you might see whilst doing so. Why should OP keep her curtains closed?

Its not about looking out of your own windows, its about looking in to other peoples! They can do as they like in their own houses, and if you don't like it the onus is on you to not look, not on them to stop.

someonewhowonders Tue 13-Mar-18 12:18:30

What the hell is camming?!

ExcuseTheCheese Tue 13-Mar-18 14:01:39

@someonewhowonders interactive porn via webcam.

I had a neighbour who used to come home and undress in front of his open blinds, if you had to close your windows and blinds for the evening, it was impossible not to see as it was in your eye line.

I'd write a note but stay friendly. Just explain why you want to avoid seeing it. As someone who takes artsy pictures, they need to be open for the lighting to be right but a flood light will work just as well.

MillyChantilly Tue 13-Mar-18 14:06:20

Camming is stripping and performing various solo sex acts and what not in front of a webcam to paying customers.

I'd pop a note through the door. Or I'd wave over enthusiastically.

Bluntness100 Tue 13-Mar-18 17:23:18

Mn is so bloody weird about this issue

Totally, it's all " so what if your neighbour is performing live sex acts in front of their window, look elsewhere*

In reality the rest of the real world is all " WTAF , I don't want to see that when I happen to glance out my window".

All I can assume is these folks are the ones performing live sex acts in front of their windows for the neighbours to see. There really is no other explanation for it. No one in the real world " says yeah that's fine, I'll just look elsewhere or keep my curtains closed, they are entitled to get it on where everyone can easily see them" 🤣

flumpybear Tue 13-Mar-18 17:31:26

Put a note through the door suggesting that stick on window stuff that means you can't see through - perhaps she's showing her assets in the best light winkshockhmm

VioletBow Fri 16-Mar-18 14:44:54

Sorry had no internet for a few days.

My sofa is opposite my livingroom window, I can also see from there, I'm not going out of my way to look at her I happened to notice as I walked into my bedroom, it was hard to miss seeing as she has a bright light illuminating her.
I'm not going to have my curtains closed all the time because of it that's ridiculous 🙄

I also must add I have no problem with what she's doing, but if I wanted to see that I would go looking for the sites for it, not expect to see it any time I walk into my bedroom or glance up whilst sat on the sofa.

I popped a polite note in, saying welcome to the street, and to make them aware I had noticed I could see directly in when they have the blinds wide open.

Since then they have been half shutting them during the day but closing them at night, but her next door neighbour who I'm friendly with has said the seem to be having lots of visitors at nighttime as they can hear them coming and going at all hours (they have a young baby and very thin walls)

VioletBow Fri 16-Mar-18 14:46:45

Also thank you to everyone who sees my point 😂

Is it also weird that they have been in the house a few weeks and the "let agreed" sign from the estate agent is still up?

VioletBow Fri 16-Mar-18 14:48:26

@ExcuseTheCheese she had one of those umbrellas with the light inside (no idea the correct terminology) so I don't think it was about getting the right lighting?

ExcuseTheCheese Fri 16-Mar-18 18:01:34

Keeping the let agreed sign up is good business promotion for the agency so they may not be intending to take it down for some time.

As someone who was an agent for a long time and saw and heard about a lot, visitors all hours of the night usually spells drugs or prostitution to me. Perhaps they have multiple co-stars of a night!?

It could have still been about the light or I used to get condensation if my blinds were closed in a humid room if the windows were shut (I'm assuming they would be if they don't want people to hear?), the light may add to that but at least they've taken heed of your note.

VioletBow Fri 16-Mar-18 21:54:13

@ExcuseTheCheese ah makes sense about the sign, we live on a very long street and there are often houses going on the market.

I'm really hoping it's not drugs or prostitution, although I'm sure if it is it will soon become apparent as my mum (who lives next door to me) works within an organisation that works with vulnerable adults due to drugs and prostitution, and I'm about to begin a new career that would make me a very undesirable neighbour to a drug dealer or brothel 😂😂

Coolestjay Sat 17-Mar-18 00:17:45

Shut ur own blinds 🤭

YeahILoveSummer Sat 17-Mar-18 10:54:00

So many stupid unrealistic responses of keeping your blinds shut. Yes keep them shut 24 hours a day and never look out your window at all. You are being unreasonable looking out your window 🤣

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