My baby is 11 days old. Mum has been up to see him three times now but my dad hasn't come with her. My DH was very quiet for the whole of my mum's visit today and once she left has just got really angry.
He's massively offended that my dad hasn't been bothered to meet his first grandson yet. My dad has an illness which means he gets fatigued easily and his mobility is bad - but all he needed to do was get from my parent's flat to the car and then from my driveway into my house. I understand newborn babies are a bit boring but this is his first grandson so I can see why my DH is pissed off.
However, my dad is very 'hands-off' and I wasn't expecting him to be a very gushing grandad to be honest. I've said this to my DH but he thinks I'm just protecting my dad.
Just had our first row since the baby was born and I'm pissed off he's making a big deal of this when I'm not that bothered. Yes, I'd like my dad to be more interested but it was unlikely to happen.
My WWYD is do I tell my mum how pissed off my husband is or just keep this between the two of us and hope he calms down?
It's a big effort to visit my parents as we don't have a car at the moment, so the journey would involve a 15min walk to the bus station then a bus journey of over an hour with a newborn...versus my dad just sitting in a car!
WWID? I'd ask my Mum to bring Dad next time she visits as it'd be nice for him to meet his new grandson. OR I'd tell DH that, as Dad isn't interested in babies and is hands-off in general, I'd find it an unnecessary stress to have him visit so soon. AND I'd tell DH to knock off with taking offence and stick to helping me and our baby.