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*what she needed to learn

Sorry, should have proof read.

I wouldnt say anything to anyone. Not your problem

The course is “just for fun”?

When you say she’ll be “asked to leave” you do mean just the course, not her actual job don’t you?

She doesn’t work with me, I mean she is doing the course for fun, not for a qualification or anything.

Feign ignorance but don't do something like this for her again. If they ask her to leave, then so be it. She can't be surprised if it happens. She knows she's not attending.

I do have sympathy for her low self confidence, but committing to something thenletting people down and lying aren't very likeable qualities.

She does need to take some responsibility for herself though. You can't behave in unlikeable ways and then wonder why peope don't like you.

She needs to get counselling for the low confidence and do things to help herself. Pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone, being successful and positive feedback from others are all ways of improving self confidence. She isn't going to get any of that if she continues to do this.

Leave it. Surely it’s up to her

I don’t like that I know she’s lying to me, and when I return to work i imagine my boss will comment how she didn’t attend, so she’ll know that I know she was lying.

She was so exited to do it that I just thought she would actually just do it and it would all be simple!

When you say fun , is it counting as cpd? Does she get time off work to attend? Can you text back and say you are pleased she has enjoyed it so far. Don't mention that you have been told she hasn't been going, just encourage her to keep going.

No, she doesn’t work currently but previously was in an unrelated field. It’s an Introduction to BSL course, which my work and she said it was something she had always wanted to do

Sorry, missed a bit out. Was going to say “which my work offer”. I work for a church and we run or have people in to run courses that community or church might be interested in. This one was because we received some funding.

Oh misunderstood, thought you all worked for same company. Is the funding conditional on minimum attendance criteria and were others unable to get a place? Could be tricky for her to make up missed sessions and it will only get more difficult the longer she leaves it. Encourage her to keep going though.

During conversation just ask ‘are you okay, I heard you missed the course?’

Funding was dependant on 12 people doing it i think and including both friends there are about 15. So no one has lost a place due to her being there and I don’t think it will matter to funding but I don’t know enough about that.